No matter your age, it’s never too late to find your purpose and create a brighter future. Here’s 3 steps to get you going in the right direction.
Note: This is a guest essay by Natalie Matushenko
Even though I had spent over 20 years studying nearly every wellness modality under the sun, my life turned upside-down in my 40s.
It all started with a sense of discontent with my comfortable, yet all too predictable life in suburban Massachusetts.
The answers often fell short of my dreams. I knew I needed to find my purpose in life – but I felt confused as to how.
Within a period of six months, I was tested for thyroid, lung, breast and adrenal cancers.
Plus I was told that I would need open heart surgery within 2 years.
Next my changing hormones began to express themselves in very uncomfortable ways:
I was miserable and in need of help. All of my friends and clients were also going through the same mid-life transition. But resources were surprisingly hard to find.
I searched for years to cure my health issues – and to find my purpose – all with varying degrees of success.
I spent months interviewing over 40 world-renowned experts in the fields of…
What I discovered is that with the right resources and support, our changing hormones are the gateway to claiming our wisdom and power as women. We can reclaim our power, find our purpose, and once again feel vibrant, sexy, confident, successful and happy. Plus we can renegotiate our relationships – so they fulfill us.
When we do we create lives that are even better than anything we have imagined!
Where it gets even better is that as we fully honor ourselves, we redirect our creative energy to not only create brighter lives for ourselves. But to also inspire change in the world around us. We begin to make our biggest contribution yet.
Basically, when we live our purpose, we then leave our legacy.
Heal your old hurts, wounds and traumas. Grieve whatever losses, missed opportunities or regrets need to be grieved. Then let them all go so you can make room for the new.
It may be an unsatisfying job or career path, an unfulfilling romantic relationship or unsupportive friendships, a way of eating or exercising that no longer work for your body or being fed up with never having enough money for what you want to do.
Whatever doesn’t suit you becomes glaringly obvious in your 40s and 50s. You start to feel a deep inner discontent that can no longer be ignored.
Or the Universe makes sure you get the message that something needs to change via a scary illness or a partner having an affair or being laid off from a job or a business going under.
This internal discontent and the corresponding need for change usually bring up a lot of fear. You may find yourself especially sensitive, emotional or reactive. I believe it’s not “just the hormones”. It’s your soul calling you to shed what no longer serves you so you can move forward into a brighter future without excess baggage.
You claim your power when you honor who you are. What do you truly want? What makes you happy? Who do you love being around? What kind of activities do you enjoy?
And unapologetically creating a life that reflects your authentic self.
To do this, you need to ask yourself some important questions:
Once you get to know what makes your heart sing, it’s time to take 100% responsibility for making your dreams come true. It’s time to take action.
It’s completely normal to have doubts or to be scared. You will probably have to do mindset work, healing your inner child work, visualizing, setting your intentions, praying… whatever helps you take action.
Research your dream location. Take a class that will help you further your skills. Teach your partner how to treat you so you feel like a beloved goddess. Say ‘no’ when you don’t want to do something.
Take the first step. And then another. And another. Keep taking steps and create your brighter future.
Note: You can join the free online Extraordinary Life After 40 Summit from October 21st to November 3rd by registering here. You will get unlimited access to over 40 world-renowned expert interviews, including Karen Salmansohn – New York Times best-selling authors, transformational teachers, doctors, coaches and healers – to help you balance your hormones and transform every area of your life. Register here.
About the author, Natalie Matushenko, PCC, CPCC:
Natalie Matushenko is a certified coach with nearly twenty years of experience. An expert in helping you find your purpose, create abundance and turn your passions into a lifestyle. An Ivy League University and top business school graduate. A mother of 3 girls and wife to her soul mate of 26 years. An adventurer and a seeker.