Healthy Relationships vs Unhealthy Relationships: 10 Signs

Healthy Relationships vs Unhealthy Relationships: 10 Signs

healthy relationships vs unhealthy relationships
All relationships have various challenges. But there are specific warning signs and red flags to look out for which show if a relationship is in deep trouble. Below are tools to help you more easily tell the difference between healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships.

In my book Prince Harming Syndrome, I humorously describe a Prince Harming as a guy who turns out to be either trouble or trouble-d – although he never starts out this way.

Basically, a Prince Harming lures you in with superficial lures – like sexiness, funniness, wealth, charisma, compliments, love letters – and then – WHACK!

In the way there’s “bait and switch” in advertising, Prince Harmings pull a “date and switch.”

I recognize the appeal of Prince Harming because I’ve been there, dated him. There’s always something terrific you can find about a Prince Harming.

Every jerk has his silver lining.

(Note: YES – all of what I’m saying applies equally to Princess Harmings, as well. They too are out and there! But for the simplicity of this short essay and my Prince Harming Syndrome e-book, I only reference the words “Prince Harming.” If you’re someone dealing with a Princess Harming, simply replace the gender difference as you read along!)

Wedding Bells vs Warning Bells: Signs of An Unhealthy Relationship
Admittedly, trying to differentiate between a Prince Harming and Prince Charming can be as daunting as those visual games in magazines – where you’re shown two almost-identical drawings, then challenged to identify what’s different.

Eventually, as you look closer, you’ll see: “Ooh—unlike a Prince Charming, this prince has two faces, not one! Aha!”

Trust me.

You don’t want to date a two-faced prince.

He’ll be a royal pain in your heart.

In order to make sure you are able to quickly assess how many faces your prince is sporting, here are 10 of the 50 questions you should ask either your Prince Crush and/or yourself – each excerpted from my recommended book Prince Harming Syndrome (which I’m offering FREE for a limited time).

Basically, if you want your prince to “pop the question,” you must pop these questions up front!

10 questions to help you hear warning bells vs wedding bells

1. Ask your Prince Crush if he feels he could live a happy life if he never got married.

It will be a fun way to find out his views on marriage without being frighteningly direct.

2. Ask your Prince Crush if he has happily married friends or unhappily married friends.

Again, this conversation will get him to reveal his views and readiness when it comes to marriage and longterm commitment.

3. Ask your Prince Crush how he has grown in the last few years.

Does he talk about how he’d like to grow in any specific areas?

4. Good looks fade. But a bad personality is forever.

Does your partner titillate your mind as much as your body? Do you respect your partner’s beliefs and knowledge and insights? Your ideal partner should feel lust, love and like for you and vice versa. A good royal coupling is a passionate best friendship.

5. Ask you Prince Crush if he feels partners should be honest about everything.

If he says no, then ask him what shouldn’t they be honest about? Remember: It’s relaxing to love someone who you trust and feel safe with. Someone you know will not hide parts of his life and will happily offer up the truth, without you feeling as if you are yanking it out of him.

6. Size does matter. You must look for a partner with a really big heart.

Ask yourself if you’ve seen evidence that your Prince Crush is intrinsically warm, open and kind, or the opposite? Have you witnessed your Prince Crush doing small acts of kindness like leaving a very big tip or helping someone with their shopping bags?

7. Has your Prince Crush talked with you about lessons he’s learned about pain and disappointment?

Does he show signs of empathy for your pain and disappointment? Does he express nurturing and supporting behaviors?

8. What’s one of the sexiest qualities to look for in a partner?

The ability to listen and compromise! Why? Because listening plus compromising keeps you feeling appreciated and connected, even over small things, like which movie to see or what place to eat. Have you experienced your Prince Crush being able to listen and compromise? Have you heard him utter the four sexiest words ever: “I’m sorry. You’re right!”

9. Do you know the dirtiest of details about your partner’s mental health history?

Is he bipolar or on medication? Has he ever had a meltdown? Does he have anger management issues? Drug or alcohol addictions? Ask your man directly to explain why and how he broke up with his last relationship. Listen for long-term anger and Drama King stories.

10. If you want to live happily ever after, your man has to be happy.

Ask yourself and/or your man if he’s truly happy. If he’s unhappy all the time, he will view you through non-rosy life glasses! You need a man who embraces character values that help him be emotionally stable, even-tempered, addiction-free and full of high self-esteem. It’s corny but true—it’s hard for someone to love you happily if he’s not happy with himself first. Do you sense your Prince Crush feels proud of who he is in his life? Does he allow people to walk all over him? Does he treat himself with self-nurturing and self-respect?

Read all 50 out of 50 of Prince Harming Syndrome’s questions to ask your partner and yourself – FOR FREE – or a limited time! Grab your free copy by clicking here! 

I’d love to hear your insights on the comment section below! What’s something which comes to your mind and heart when you read my essay?  Be specific! Share your personal story or a personal happiness tool! 

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Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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