Are you having relationship problems? Perhaps you have communication problems. Does your “communication style” hurt or help you? Learn more…
There’s a very consistent reason that people have relationship problems and wind up in an unhealthy dynamic.
Basically, the better your communication skills, the healthier your relationship.
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You hint, hint at what you want to say without ever saying it. Basically, you hope the other person is a mind reader.
You’re sarcastic about what you want to say.
You’re obnoxious about what you want to say. Basically, you’re a bully, a rager etc…
You choose to say absolutely nothing about how you feel. Basically, you put up walls.
You make up lies in an effort to get what you want and avoid conflicts.
You are a bad listener. Your communication is a one way street. Not a two-way back and forth street. You communicate about your thoughts and feelings – without listening for feedback.
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You speak up warmly and with compassion – at the speed of life. You nip problems in the bud before they grow unruly.
You must get honest with yourself and recognize that you might have what I call a “Portable Childhood.”
This is when you re-create the trouble-making issues you learned in childhood.
Let’s say that as a child you grew up in a home with lots of bad communication.
As a result your “role models” were not talented at good communication.
Perhaps you grew up with a dad who greeted problems with silence. Or a passive aggressive sarcasm. As a result, you learned these bad communication styles.
Or perhaps you had a mom who was very Mommy Dearest. She shrieked at you all the time. If so, you will attempt to recreate “Shriek Two, The Saga Continues.”
Basically – you became a bad communicator because you grew up in a home with bad communicators.
Don’t have 6 minutes to read the above mentioned article? Below are 2 mantras to help you to reset your communication style to “warmly direct”.
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Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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