I myself used to do them.
But then I kept feeling like affirmations weren’t effective at persuading me to feel more positive – especially when I was in a particularly negative frame of mind – which is when I most needed the mental and emotional support.
In fact, fluffy affirmations can sometimes wind up making you feel worst – because they can make you become even more aware of how you’re not living up to the affirmation’s hyperbolic hype.
I believe affirmations have one MAJOR FLAW…
When you’re in a highly negative state, then one-size-fits-all peppy affirmations will feel jarringly false – and you’ll thereby instantly resist absorbing them into your thought system.
Here’s a helpful solution….
Pour yourself a “Cockytale” – a delicious blend of positive facts and/or marvelous memories – prepared just-for-you-and-only-you.
How do you make a Cockytale?
Let’s say you wake up feeling negative about your job. You begin playing a loop of self-flagellating thoughts about how you’re gonna mess up a big client meeting.In this scenario, I recommend you pour yourself a nice powerful “Cockytale” about that time you slam-dunked a project in the past – or – scored wildly well on a test – or – were adoringly placed high up on a cushy pedestal for your talents.
“Cockytales” are very different than affirmations – because unlike affirmations a “Cockytale” logically counteracts the negativity in your subconscious and conscious mind – by reminding you of all the very real reasons you should be feeling cocky and positive about yourself and your life.
I’m a huge believer in the power of “Cockytales.” They are the “Thought Breakfast of Champions” – and a terrific way to start your day. I wrote about the power of Cocktales in my newest book THINK HAPPY. (In fact, this essay is an excerpt from THINK HAPPY!)
Oh – and don’t just limit Cockytales to your morning routine! In the same way you might enjoy a coffee whenever you feel your energy fading, I recommend preparing a “Cockytale” whenever you might feel your positive energy fading in your day.
“Cockytales” are more powerful than affirmations, because “Cockytales” have 3 things going for them that affirmations are missing…
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.