Learn about the many benefits of positive gossip and why you should start to talk good behind people’s backs more often.
Today, let’s dive into something we all do but don’t often think about: gossip. But wait, before you roll your eyes, I’m not talking about the “Who-dated-who” or “Did-you-hear-what-happened-to…” negative talk kind of gossip.
I’m flipping the script. Let’s talk about positive gossip.
Yep, it’s a thing. And it’s freaking awesome.
Positive gossip is the juicy, feel-good chatter that highlights the best in people when they’re not around. It’s about swapping stories of achievements, kindness, and all-around awesomeness instead of the usual petty gossip that drags folks through the mud. Think of it as the sunny side of the rumor mill, where the focus is on lifting others up rather than pulling them down.
Picture this: You’re chilling at your favorite coffee shop, overhearing bits and pieces of conversations (come on, we all eavesdrop a little).
Instead of the usual negative chitchat, imagine hearing someone sing praises about a colleague’s killer presentation or a friend’s amazing act of kindness.
That’s positive gossip – and it’s powerful.
Let’s be real: the world’s got enough negativity. Flip on the news, scroll through social media – it’s a downer fest.
But what if we could change the narrative?
What if our small acts of positive gossip could create ripples of good vibes?
It’s important for each of us to do our part to spread a little positivity into the world – and create an environment where people feel seen, heard, appreciated… and emotionally safe.
I’m not suggesting that we become Pollyanna and ignore the negative stuff that needs addressing.
But let’s simply each do our part to balance the scales a little bit… ok?
So, next time you’re about to dive into some hot gossip, mindfully flip the script. How? Below are 3 tips to help you start talking more about the good stuff in people.
Here are some easy ways to make positive gossip part of your daily routine.
Don’t just say stuff for the sake of it. Be genuine.
Authenticity is key.
Positive gossip is isn’t just about making someone else look good for pretend reasons. It’s done from the heart – simply for the sake of being a loving person.
Be specific. Instead of “Jake’s a good guy,” how about “Jake’s presentation had some really innovative ideas that got me thinking.” Specific compliments are powerful.
Don’t limit your positive gossip to your besties. Spread it around. Tell your team, your boss, heck, tell the barista who makes your coffee every morning. The more, the merrier.
Below are the 2 top positives to being a positive gossiper.
Ever walked into a room and felt the energy? That’s what positive words can do. They create an environment where people feel valued and recognized. This isn’t fluffy stuff – it’s psychology. Positive environments breed productivity and creativity.
Here’s a bonus: Positive gossip comes back to you. People know that if you’re kind behind someone’s back, you’re likely kind in front of them too. It sets a tone for how people perceive and interact with you. So kindness has a positive boomerang effect.
Basically, when you talk positively about others, people start to trust you more. Because they don’t see you as a Debbie Downer. They see you as someone spreading good vibes and showing that you notice and appreciate the good in people. That’s rare. That’s gold.
Life’s too short to be an asshole. Positive gossip is about being the anti-asshole. It’s about recognizing the good in people.
So, let’s each be the people who talk good behind someone’s back.
Because, in the end, the energy we put out is the energy we get back.
And who knows, maybe your positive gossip might just be the thing that turns someone’s day, or even life, around. How cool would that be?
So, go ahead, talk about people behind their backs – but make it the good stuff.
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And if you have toxic people in your life – that you don’t feel emotionally safe around, I share a range of communication techniques and boundary tools in my bestselling and therapist recommended online program The Manage & Avoid Drama Llamas Course.
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