They are huge motivators for so many people.
But guess what?
When you’re lying on your deathbed these things become a lot less important.
(Pssst…You can read these specific 5 regrets down below & get 5 tools to live more regret-free and happier! But first – a little insight on the topic of death.)
When I read what these terminally ill patients shared about their regrets, I became intrigued.
Their views on happiness completely matched up with my favorite Greek philosopher Aristotle’s beliefs on true happiness.
True happiness has to do with “internal goods” (love, self-love, following your authentic passions, etc )- instead of those far too popular “external goods” (money, fame, beauty, success).
But if you want to make sure you live a regret-free life, then it’s essential you plan ahead.
It’s important that you regularly live each day keeping “the ends in mind” – and thinking about how you want to feel on your death bed.
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
What inspires you? What invigorates you?
Get clear on your true-to-you values – then create your goals from there.
Take some time to actually write up a list of what holds true meaning for you – so you become more fully aware of who you are at your core and what you value most.
Afterwards, use this list as your “GPS for authenticity” guide when making decisions.
Regularly, ask yourself….
“How many steps closer to (or further from) my “authentic truth” will this decision take me?”
“I wish I didn’t work so hard.”
Although a good work ethic can be rewarding in more ways than just financially, balance is key.Pro-actively schedule self-care time and social time into your calendar. If you are working so much that you don’t have time to enjoy life, then consider whether you might be able to live more economically.
“I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
Confess don’t suppress! Keeping your self expression locked inside of you can create dis-ease and disharmony within.
Always remember you have just as much right as anyone else to be heard.
“I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
It’s great and important to get together in person with loved ones when time and/or distance allow. Unfortunately we live in a busy world, and are often time-challenged. Thankfully, technology has made it easier then ever to stay in touch when you can’t meet up in person. Phonecalls, texts and emails can go a long way to bridging emotional gaps. So call, text or email a friend today! Or consider gift-ing them my bestselling friendship book, “Friends Forever.”
“I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
Having trouble thinking positively? Check out my book THINK HAPPY: peptalks to boost positivity.
Plus always remember, “Sometimes you’ve gotta fake positivity till you make positivity,” as I’ve shared in a few of my books.
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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