Life gives you many reasons to be afraid. But life also offers many reasons to feel joy. Here’s how one woman learned to be happy even in tough circumstances.
Note: This is a guest essay by Kellie May
Do you believe the following: Happiness can be found daily – no matter how tough your circumstances.
For me the answer would be yes!
I prefer to live happy. And it is a preference I work on. Although not as much as I used to.
I’ve always been optimistic, a resilient sort who views the glass half full.
Just as I went from running to becoming a runner, I nurtured my optimism and grew into a full blown optimist.
The quiz I took even says so! (Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman)
There have been events, situations and people along the way that have shaped my positive perspective.
Others have come in the form of inspiration – such as Ellen Degeneres, TeamHoyt and YouTube sensations like Kid President and Arthur, the paratrooper turned yogi .
I also use what I like to call inspirational quotes, aka words of wisdom.
I would like to share some words of wisdom that summarize how I evolved from being optimistic into being an optimist.
In her book Instant Happy, Karen Salmansohn says:
It wasn’t in the plan to have two children with disabilities.
“Much of the pain in life comes from having a life plan that you’ve fallen in love with, but that doesn’t work out. Having to find a new life plan hurts. The trick is not to become attached to any particular life plan and to remember that there is always a better, EVEN-HAPPIER life plan out there somewhere.”
But it happened.
It wasn’t in the plan to have breast cancer.
But it happened.
Over the course of a decade, I learned that I cannot count on any plan, best laid, well-intentioned, or fool-proof.
My ability to patiently and lovingly embrace any plan as it unfolds in front of me.
Two years ago I put in for a transfer which I would call blind.
I was requesting to leave one school, and with that request I had to be okay with ending up wherever they found a spot for me.
I didn’t just throw caution to the wind, I threw my hat in the ring.
And I signed on the dotted line. I was all in.
Plus I was a little taken aback at colleagues who were afraid for me.
The new prospective job did not scare a little ol’ optimist like me.
Because I knew I was taking me to go do it!
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