I once knew a quiet, fragile, shy girl who cared for everyone and everything. She helped anyone in need, desperately trying to fit in, to feel love and sense belonging.
She was so unselfishly kind that it was odd that she was also so sad.
She often felt unloved and unworthy, yet she was brimming with talent waiting to be unleashed and explored.
She thought kindness and service to others was the key to being loved and having a fulfilled life.Her young life passed with many internalized disappointments: she was not the right this or that, or maybe she was just not lovable. She covered it all up and plunged her years into jobs, family, and friends.
She still felt like a stranger in her body, a nobody, and an outsider, despite grand outward success in career and marriage.
She had gone all the way and still felt empty.
Her veil of inner darkness lifted.
Her life opened up and she instantly felt ownership of her skin; she instantly felt love and kindness toward herself. Her spirits brightened and her life bloomed in ways she never ever could have realized possible.
She now knows that kindness goes around, comes around, and makes one feel connected and alive with daily purpose and gratitude.
She now knows that kindness comes from inside out and outside in, penetrating all layers.
She now knows that kindness is a special look, a hand to hold, a smile or a wink, a special understanding, a connection, and a special gift lacking in expectations of grandeur.
She now knows that kindness connects one at a time for all time.
She now knows that kindness is meant to be passed on and appreciated.
She now lives her life understanding that a life lived with kindness is a life lived with love.
With love and kindness,
Susan, aka “that young girl”
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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