What are the most common causes of low self esteem? How can you raise your confidence? Read on to boost your self love and self worth!
We all experience low self esteem from time to time. But for some people, low self worth is a constant problem.
Unfortunately, when you have a low opinion of yourself, you can wind up self sabotaging your happiness. You won’t achieve the things that you want – because you will never have the confidence to go after them.
If you want to unlock your full potential, you need to learn how to deal with low self esteem issues.
There are a lot of ways to improve self esteem! But the thing that often helps the most: understanding the root of the problem.
If you can pinpoint the reasons behind your low self esteem, it’s easier to figure out how to rebuild your confidence.
Basically, when you know why you think negatively about yourself, you’re then better prepared to improve your thought patterns.
With all this in mind, here are the 4 most common reasons for low self esteem.
Like many psychological issues, low self esteem can have its roots in childhood.
With this in mind, disapproving parents are a very common cause of low self esteem – even if people do not realize it.
If your parents were always very critical of your life choices when you were young (and maybe even now!), their judgements of you can lead to you feeling that nothing you do is good enough.
I write more about how your childhood influences your self esteem in this article called “Why People Self Sabotage Happiness And How To Stop It.”
Quick Self Love Reminder: It’s your life! You should only look for approval from yourself!
Another big cause of low self esteem: bullying.
Children that experience bullying are often left with emotional scars and low self esteem.
Feeling unsafe, and questioning why you are the target of bullies will often lead you to believe that it must be a problem with you – and not them.
If your parents, teachers and friends do not offer you the right support when you’re bullied, you can wind up developing low self esteem issues.
You can read more about this topic of bullying in this article called “I am my own worst bully: how to love yourself more.”
If you experience a trauma of some kind (physical, emotional or sexual abuse), this trauma can leave a lasting impact on you and seriously damage your self esteem.
It’s important that you seek help if you are struggling to deal with the aftermath of trauma.
After all, it’s very challenging to process complex emotions on your own. Thereby, without the right support, a trauma may lead you to blame yourself for what happened.
I write more about recovering from trauma in this article called “How To Heal From Emotional Pain (Including Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).”
In a lot of cases, low self esteem can be quite complex. Although most often low self worth is triggered from past experiences.
Low self esteem can also be a feature of a personality disorder -and that’s something that you should also consider.
If you speak with a therapist, they may be able to diagnose you with such a condition – and direct you to a borderline personality disorder treatment center to help you manage it.
A personality disorder may not be the most common reason for low self esteem. But it is something that you should try to rule out if you cannot think of any other reason.
I share more about dealing with challenging personalities (both other people’s and your own) in this video course Manage And Avoid Drama Llamas.
The 4 causes above are some of the more common reasons that people suffer from low self esteem.
The more you can understand the problem, the easier it is to deal with.