25 Benefits To Finding A Partner Later In Life

28 Benefits To Finding A Partner Later In Life

I am a big believer that it’s possible to find a terrific partner later in life. It happened for me late in life.

Plus, it happened a second time around for my mom – after my dad passed away – and she was in her late 70’s!

I was my mom’s Cyrano De Bergerac on a dating website.

I wrote my 70-something mom’s profile and helped her screen and answer notes from admiring suitors.  (I had to tell her not to write in all capitals – and try to avoid men who write in all capitals!)
Soon after my mom met an awesome man – a doctor – who was 4 younger than her!
They now go on cruises together and are deeply in love and committed.

So, yes, I do believe you can find a good partner later in life!

I also think more people than ever before are going to be looking for love later in life, because more people are living longer than they ever did  -thanks to all kinds of exciting longevity tools! (Note: I wrote a bestseller “Life is Long” – with tips to live longer, healthier younger!)

This means that now – more than ever – it’s never too late to find happy, safe-feeling love.

I also believe there are many benefits to finding a partner later in life.

I wrote them all down – and counted them up – and I found lots of reasons to start dating – no matter how old you might be!

Below are 25 benefits to finding a partner later in life.

Psssst…if you’re wary of love because of a challenging break up, I share a range of tools to heal and move on to a happier relationship in my video course Broken Heart Recovery.

1. You’ve had the breakups that led to breakdowns that led to the breakthrough.

You are older and thereby wiser.

2. You’ve sowed your wild oats — and now think, “Sow what?”

All those tempting choices aren’t really so tempting.

love later in life3. You’re healthier and more together.

Meaning? The love relationship now has at least a 50 percent chance of being healthier and staying together.

4. You now wisely know the “ability to compromise” is very, very sexy.

Yep, it’s very sexy to hear someone say, “Maybe I was wrong.” Or, “I’ll consider trying what you suggest.”

5. You no longer confuse conflict for passion.

You recognize that bumper sticker you’ve read on cars is oh so true: “It’s better to have loved and lost…than to live with a wacko for the rest of your life.” Duh! Instead of choosing a partner who keeps you walking on eggshells — it’s essential to choose someone who’s as comforting as listening to seashells — a partner who keeps you at your calmest and most secure!

6. You’ve wisely stopped looking for “sex objects” — and started looking for “longterm relationship objects.”

Basically, you now wisely know to seek “long haul qualities” in a partner — rather than “short haul qualities” — because a successful marriage is a long haul marriage.

4. You now know that just because a person looks good on paper doesn’t mean they’re going to “act good” in real life.

Status, wealth, fame and trust funds no longer blindingly seduce you towards a person.

red flags in love5. You now know not to become intimately involved with someone who has the following…


6. You’re now wisely less “self-centered” about problem-solving.

Instead you’re more “relationship-centered.”

7. You now know it’s never a checklist of adjectives to look for in a person — but the compatibility of your adjectives with their adjectives.

Meaning? The rocks in your head must fit in the holes in the other person’s head.

8. You now know personality is the tip of the iceberg. But character is the real foundation.

While it’s okay not to share all the same interests and hobbies, you must always share the same core character values and ethics!

9. You now wisely know you’re never going to find perfect, custom-fit love in a world of off-the-rack people.

All people will have some flaws and misfittings.

10. It’s now apparent what was inappropriate behavior in your parents!

Meaning? You are now more aware of how not to share your parents’ “Inappropriate Behavior Issues” with your partner!

11. After having endured a gazillion awful dates…

afraid of being aloneSuddenly your fear of working at a relationship is a lot less scary than your fear of more awful dates.

12. You now know when a relationship is on the road to nowhere.

And you know how to find that exit ramp to change.

13. You’re less needy and more want-y.

Meaning? You don’t “need” a mate in your life. You want one. And so you are less likely to be unhealthfully co-dependent — and more likely to be healthfully inter-dependent.

14. You now have work you love.

So can put more attention on the work of love.

15. You now wisely know “communication” is about “listening” — just as much as it’s about talking.

And thereby you now listen with 20/20 hearing.

16. You now know having a firmer tush won’t snag you a good mate.

And you know having strong gut instincts ….and listening to them will!

17. You now see love as a two-way street…

finding love later in lifeAnd you know it’s not a rollercoaster ride.

18. You now know true love requires love of truth.

You must share openly and vulnerably with your partner to feel true intimacy and avoid longterm problems. With this in mind, you now also know that if you seek a partner by use game playing bait, you will only lure in game playing fish. However if you use open/honest communication bait you will lure in open/honest communication fish — the best kind of relationship fish to marry!

19. You now recognize that you get love in your life by loving your life.

Meaning: A man or a woman isn’t meant to be your entire life — they’re meant to enhance the happy life you’ve created for yourself.

20. You know size does matter. You need a partner with a really big heart.

Nice guys and girls don’t finish last — they create relationships that last!

21.You’ve stopped blaming your past for bad relationships — and started blaming your present.

Meaning? You are finally exploring what you’re doing right-here-right-now to bring a relationship down — taking some self-responsibility. You’ve witnessed your “constants” in a variety of relationship settings — and thereby now fully know when you’re the one being the trouble-maker.

22. You have less time to waste in your life.

lasting relationship later in lifeAs a result, this magically increases your intelligence and instincts with people.

23. You know who you are.

So you have a higher percentage probability of finding someone who’s right for you.

24. You also know who you are NOT.

So you know when someone is NOT right for you.

25. You now wisely know love is a boomerang.

What you have and give away is what you get back.

It’s never too late to find the best relationship of your life

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