Positive Parenting is a trending concept. Read on to learn my “8 step tool” to inspire better behavior with my little dude. Learn how to motivate children with love instead of screams
A few months ago our family started to call our home “The House Of Love.”
This nickname happened one evening by accident. I was trying to get our almost-5 year old son (Ari Salmansohn) to go to sleep at bedtime. This has become a time which has earned its own moniker – “badtime” – a name we’ve been trying to get un-stuck.
“I don’t want to go to sleep! Sleep is booooring,” Ari has been known to say at bedtime/badtime.
Admittedly, I’m happy to know my son loves life soooo much that he doesn’t want to miss a moment of it by going to sleep.
But… I’m not so happy about all the many excuses my son concocts to stay awake.
Eventually Ari gets very direct about what he really wants.
Quarrels can happen.
Before Ari was even born – while I was pregnant – I decided very affirmatively that I wanted to discipline my child without doing lots of yelling or giving time outs.
So I read a range of Positive Parenting books.
And I came up with some helpful Positive Parenting strategies.
Since Ari was born, I’ve done my best to keep yelling and punishments to a minimum.
(Read more of my Positive Parenting strategies here – and here – and also here!)
Plus another helpful tool in creating a more positive atmosphere at home is introducing uplifting content, like the top 10 Christian YouTubers for kids, which promote kindness, patience, and family values through engaging videos.
I always try to bring whatever starts out feeling like a quarrel-about-to-erupt back into a love fest of sorts.
“We all love each other here. And treat each other with love,” I reminded my son. “My wanting you to go to sleep is all about love.”
I then hugged Ari. And – eureka – off to sleep he went.
Ever since I blurted “This is a House of Love” the phrase has become a repeated mantra in our home.
I use “This is a House of Love” as a powerful incantation for lowering cortisone levels during stressful times.
When I utter this phrase it helps to remind Ari that we’re all on the same team: The Love Team! We all want the best for each other.
The phrase “This is a House of Love” quickly brings Ari’s thoughts and actions back to what matters most in life (even more than toys, ipads and ice cream!): LOVE.
And this word “love” includes not only love for his parents – but love for his dog Fluffy, love for his best buddies, love for grandmom, his cousins, his Aunts and Uncles.
Ari loves playing games on his ipad. But when it’s meal time – I always ask him to stop.
“Mooooom,” he says, “Why can’t I play app games at dinner?”
“Which is more imporant?” I ask him, “App games or people?”
“People,” he sighs – then smiles.
“This is a House Of Love,” I remind him. “At dinner it’s important we show love for each other by looking at each other – being with each other – catching up with each other. So, please do the loving choice, and put down that ipad.”
Now whenever any of us are getting cranky pants (which includes us parents too), we each remind the other, “Yo! This is a House of Love.”
Instead of raising our voices, we rise up to be our best, most loving selves.
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