Why You Have Haters, Even If You’re A Nice Person (7 Reasons)

Are you confused as to why you have haters – because you think you’re truly a nice person?

And YES, you ARE nice!

So, what motivates a hater to hate? And why are they choosing you to hate on?

Below I share many reasons why haters gonna hate – for no good reason at all!

I’ve also included insights for how to deal with your haters – and ignore them – so they don’t get to you!

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7 reasons why nice people have haters

1. You have haters because you’re popular.

Some people only hate you because of the way other people love you.

Another definition for a hater: “Someone who secretly wishes to be you.”

In a way having haters is a good thing. It’s means you are truly loved.

2. You have haters because you did the work to improve your life.

Your haters don’t want to put in the effort to improve their life. As a result, your success reminds them they are not willing to put in effort to succeed.

Plus, your presence reminds them about what’s wrong with them – and what’s missing in their life – so they hate you.

Basically, it’s the ones who are against you who believe in your power the most.

In many ways these people who hate you are (ironically) your biggest fans. They admire all you’ve accomplished – and are quite simply jealous.

3. You have haters because you have risen above them.

People who try to pull you down often do so because they see you as above them.

Perhaps you used to be equals – at about the same level. They feel left behind and trapped at their level of existence – and just don’t like any change in their life.

They want to put you back in your place so that things remain status quo – instead of accepting your status improvements.

They’re hating on you to bring you down – to diminish your power and shine – so as to make themselves feel better.

This reminds me of a terrific Zig Ziglar says: “Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.”

4. You have haters because you’re going through a bad time – and your uneasiness makes them uneasy.

They worry your bad luck is contagious. And/or they just don’t want to put in the effort needed to cheer you up and cheer you on.

Basically…If you want to find out who’s a true friend – screw up or go through a hard time – then see who sticks around.

5. You have haters because they feel they’re missing out on being around you.

Perhaps they once rejected you – in some way – for something. Or…in general, they used to feel you weren’t good enough for them. Then you had the audacity to improve yourself and your life! (How dare you! )

As a result, your haters now feel like they are missing out on the new improved you. They need to still dislike you  – so they don’t feel like they are missing out.

Or maybe you simply are choosing not to socialize with them as often as they want. Or work with them. Or maybe you don’t even know them – and they don’t know how to get to know you – and that bugs them – because they feel they’re missing out being around you.

6. You have haters because you overcame a shared problem.

You used to share a problem in common: overeating, or binge drinking, or toxic romantic partners.

You then found a way to leave the problem behind you – while they are still caught up in the chaos.

Your newfound peace causes them angst, regret and self loathing.

7. You have haters because they hate themselves.

These people are simply not capable of love and connection – with anybody.

Maybe they are a narcissist, sociopath or have some kind of personality disorder. Perhaps they had a terrible childhood – and thereby hurt people want to hurt people. Or they were raised with hateful, judgmental beliefs.

As adults, they never awakened to see the wrongness of these limiting beliefs.

Unfortunately, all of these types of people are mostly comfortable with resentment and drama.

Basically, happy people don’t hate. And people who walk around hating aren’t happy.

How To Deal With Haters:

If someone treats you like crap, remember: It’s because there’s something wrong with them. Not you.

Normal people don’t go around trying to destroy other people’s lives.

The best thing to do is to have compassion for the pain they’re in – then ignore their attacks.

Here are 3 healing quotes to help you ignore haters

• “Don’t try to win over your haters. You are not the jackass whisperer.” – Brene Brown
• “You either like me or you don’t. It took me twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don’t have that kinda time to convince somebody else.” -Daniel Franzese
• “Don’t you worry your pretty little mind, because people throw rocks at things that shine.” – Mark Twain wrote it and Taylor Swift sang it.

Stop wasting your time and thoughts on people who hate you!

Spend your time and attention on people who love and adore you.

Appreciate those who are happy for your happiness and sad for your sadness. These are the people to truly treasure.

Remember: Don’t worry if someone doesn’t like you. Most people are struggling to like themselves.

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