Everybody talks about the importance of appreciation – how it’s such a big-time happiness booster.
Truth be told, appreciation very much deserves all the attentive, flattering PR it receives!
But today I’d like to discuss the dangers of appreciation’s extreme opposite: depreciation.
Let me state clearly that “depreciation” is not simply the absence of appreciation. It’s the presence of focusing on problems, flaws and disappointments.
They speak in sentences that begin with “but” or “if only” or “what if.”
As a result, depreciators wind up devaluing a lot of good stuff they should be feeling quite giddy about!
By decreasing the value of what’s around them – they decrease the love, joy and inner calm they feel in their lives.
I know after I found myself blindsided by a Prince Harming, I became an accidental depreciator in the beginning of my next relationship. I found myself looking at my partner through a magnifying glass, on a hunt to find what might be wrong with him, so I wouldn’t be surprised by another karate kick to my heart.
You think every sneeze is a potential death knell. If you’re not careful, this emotional hypochondria can manifest into self-fulfilling problems. Thankfully, I caught myself in depreciation-mode before I did too much damage to my relationship.
Basically, when you’re a depreciator, you can get so caught up looking for teeny-tiny flaws, that you miss the big beautiful picture of what’s right in front of you.
Basically, when things start to be too good to be true – you can become a non-believing depreciator – looking for how things might be not-so-good or un-true.
For example, that delicious honeymoon glow can begin to wane after a few years of a committed relationship – or a few years of a wished-for job – or a few years after attaining anything which had once been a mere dream-bubble over your head!
All of these dreamed-for-blessings you ultimately get, can eventually become “invisible blessings” which you ultimately forget!
After you’ve had a blessing for a long time, it can become murkier to see what a blessing it is! As a result, you can depreciate your blessing’s value.
Basically, if you don’t have high-self worth, you can wind up lowering the worth of what you achieve – reappraising the value of what you’d once praised.
As soon as you snag your desire, your desire is lessened.
You see it as a less big thing – because you love the thrill of seeking the next big thing.
Take time to see the beauty in others — to be grateful for what you’ve attracted – to see the magic in life.
Make sure your blessings are fully seen by listing them daily in a journal – 10 things each day! Switch ’em up – so your list is always graced with newly mentioned blessings.
Wherever your thoughts go, this is where you/your life will go!
When you think this way, it’s easier to commit to being an appreciator (focusing on what’s working right) instead of a depreciator (focusing on what’s not working).
When you think this way, you’re less likely to want to be a depreciator – because you’re more aware of how negativity puts you in a lower energy vibration.
Meanwhile, when you’re an appreciator – you raise your energy vibration up higher – thereby becoming more of a love-magnet and happiness-magnet. With this in mind, make a commitment to complain less, and love your life more.
Feel how that feels. Also keep in mind the 20/80 rule when it comes to something you truly need to complain about: talk 20% the problem, 80% on the solution.
Sometimes you find yourself in a whiny, complaining mood because you’re stressed out of your gourd! Ring true for you?
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