The bestselling author of The Bounce Back Book shares tips for how to move forward and rebuild your life after trauma and setbacks. Read on…
How you move forward can be a direct reflection of what happened in the past. But more often than not, we move on in negative ways because of past trauma and life events.
This can take you in a warning direction and into self-abuse, self-destruction, and even toxic relationships.
Changing direction in life is never easy for anyone. And past regrets will hold you back. The true path forward is what you do now and next to improve yourself, your life, and your relationships.
I’m sharing about the topic of facing forward because I’m a bestselling author on behavioral change with over 2 million books and courses sold. Plus, I’ve shared a lot about healing from trauma in my bestselling and therapist recommended online program: The Anxiety Cure Course.
It can be one of the most challenging things in life to realize and further accept that there are problems. You are an intelligent human being, so you know when something is wrong. But pride, denial, and self-doubt can get in the way.
These will not do you any good, and seeking help is the first step in the ladder to self-improvement. Counseling, family and friends, and drug rehab are common methods of starting a new path. From there, you can forge your own life path.
Pretty much any counselor or life advisor will tell you that setting goals can be a massive game changer. Goals come in many forms, and we have all made New Year’s resolutions. But 92% of us never meet these. This is mainly because it’s a nonsense tradition without substance.
But goals in life can and will help you improve. These can be short term goals that contribute to the larger whole. You can plan these on a daily, weekly and monthly basis for the year’s plan.
Sometimes, we can’t control the things around us. The key to living a happier life is accepting this and taking steps to control the things we can. When you feel a loss of control, it can be emotionally challenging.
These emotions, such as fear, anger, and doubt, can be crippling. Identifying what causes them will help you avoid most of them and make it easier to remove yourself from these situations entirely.
Moving on, you will develop greater emotional control.
You can’t make any positive changes by being a mere observer of the tapestry of self-experience. You must take an active role in your own life without watching it go by. Second-guessing yourself, poor self-care, and letting others control you are common examples of self-neglect. Fortunately, things like a routine, changes for self-confidence, and spending time with people who genuinely care about your welfare are easy to implement with amazing results.
Some relationships are doomed from the start. But more often than not, we don’t even see it until something undeniable happens.
Physical and emotional abuse, controlling your money, and even taking your phone are examples of extreme toxicity.
Here’s how to cut it out:
There are telltale signs of toxicity in a relationship. This includes domestic relationships with siblings, parents, and roommates. Taking steps against toxicity towards you is hard. But it must be done. If there is a history of violence, allies can be a massive help going through this.
If you don’t remain conscious of what you are doing at all times, the unconscious will begin to run your life. In wellness circles this is called mindfulness. It was first proposed by Carl Jung, and has extended into many movements since. If you enjoy Star Wars, the Jedi are a good example of mindful beings! Mindfulness takes time and practice. A good start is to notice every interaction on a conscious level, try new experiences and try to stay as present as possible.
We can burn so many bridges when we go through life reflecting on and reacting to past trauma. It’s sad to lose a valued friend, family member, or medical professional. However, good people are almost always willing to give others a second chance. Trust has to be earned, and friendship isn’t a one-way street. But you can begin by reconnecting with the people you know who care about you. You can work on rebuilding these relationships as a foundation for a brighter future.
Your welfare begins and ends with you. This is why having routines, being mindful and addressing personal issues are so important in life.
Having caring people in your life is vital.
But you are not the responsibility of other people and they owe you nothing. Self-care is your responsibility and comes from a personal place.
Don’t be embarrassed though. Many people don’t take care of themselves as they should. But over 70%, like you, understand they need it.
Goals, plans and aspirations are a core part of a healthy life. These provide the motivation you need to get you up in the morning, off the couch or outside. Job seeking, human interaction and experiencing the world are three methods of inspiration. However, a clear vision of where you want to be is a powerful motivator too. People do this in different ways. Some keep it in their head, others write a list. But you can’t imagine the power of making your own vision board!
Turning to others for the help you need is how you move forward with a problematic life. Surrounding yourself with those who care about you and removing toxicity will also help. Making plans for where you want to be and visualizing it is a very powerful method of moving on.
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