then lost 20 pounds in about 3 months – and kept the weight off for 3 years and counting.Confession time: I used to be a stress eater – until I did some research as to why –
Often over-eating is a way to punish yourself – for the anger and resentment you’re feeling – either at yourself – or someone else.
In fact there’s been a lot of research which supports how anger is at the root of many addictions – as far ranging as food, drug, alcohol and shopping addictions. Addicts seek these vices to avoid feeling the pain of past resentments. Their anger becomes a boomerang —or what I call a “boomeranger” —because their unwanted negative emotions come back to whack them with an addiction.
The University of Wisconsin did a recent research study, comparing “Forgiveness Therapy” versus routine “Traditional Drug/Alcohol Therapy.” They showed “Forgiveness Therapy” helped to relieve the anger behind substance abuse even more successfully than routine drug/alcohol therapy.
Plus, not only did subjects display faster success, but created less recidivism.
They didn’t return to their addictions! They stayed addiction-free!
After I read this study (and further research) I decided to go on “A Hate Loss Plan” as part of my “Weight Loss Plan.”
In other words, I realized that whenever I was pigging out on a big bag of Cheese Doodles, I was really pigging out on a bag of “I Hate Me Doodles” or a bag of “I Hate That This Challenge/Adversity/Rejection Has Happened To Me Doodles.”
I recognized that I needed to re-train my brain to stop eating like I wanted to punish myself – or punish someone else. I needed to re-learn how to eat like I loved myself – and want to nourish and support myself.
As soon as I developed healthier ways to deal with my anger, regret, resentment, worry – sure enough I released the pull I felt towards food.
Presently it’s now instinctual for me to choose to eat like I love myself – instead of eating like I wanted to punish myself. Plus I’ve not only lost weight, I’ve lost the anger and anxiety I was feeling. I feel happier and calmer within.
Even if you’re not over-eating specifically as “punishment,” chances are you’re doing it to avoid being fully present with yourself – and unwanted feelings.
Although you might think you’re over-eating for fun entertainment – or as an attempt to comfort yourself – there are healthier ways to have fun and get comforted.
Chances are you’re using over-eating as a way to escape yourself. It’s an attempt not to feel or think about what you really need to feel and face.
You’re in “fight and flight mode.”
Basically, over-eating is about avoiding a needed loving conversation with yourself – and thereby avoiding honoring your truest feelings and truest thoughts.
If you want to live your happiest life – true to who you are – true to what you need – then you have to stop pigging out and start listening up!
You’ll not only lose weight, you’ll gain self-love, gain calm, gain confidence – and gain lots of positive energy to go towards what I call your “Grand Quest” – an exciting passion/mission.
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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