Yes, even the crummy ones.
If a relationship doesn’t survive the test of time, it doesn’t mean it still wasn’t meant to be.
Not all encounters with people are supposed to last forever.
Sometimes the “forever” is not the person – but what we gain from them.
There’s a synchronicity and purpose for each person you meet . Both our positive encounters with people and the negative, challenging encounters we suffer through.
Below are some insightful reasons why we don’t meet people by accident. And why you might randomly meet people again.
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These people are not meant to last for the long road ahead. They are an enjoyable pathway to get us to where we need to go.
These people are needed to arrive exactly at the time and place you met them – to transport you to the next level of your life journey.
You meet these people for a reason – even if they are only here for a season.
For instance, people come into your life as friends or intimate partners. You create good memories with them, and in some cases, some of them hurt you and vice versa, leaving you with great lessons in life.
Moreover, the way you connect and treat people reflects your relationship preference, especially when it comes to intimacy. Many people have monogamous relationships. But if monogamy isn’t natural for you, carefully consider the consequences of your actions to avoid hurting other people.
With this, be more open and honest about your relationship preference, such as if you’re into dating multiple women or healthy polyamory. Remember: Many people do not feel comfortable with multiple partners …whereas some are more open-minded. Learn the important lesson of good communication. The better your communication the better your relationships – and the less your emotional pain.
These people come into your life to delay you – for both little things and big things.
For example, you might have a conversation with someone – which then delays you and prevents you from getting into a bus accident.
Or you might spend time with someone – and this time spent creates a “time hiccup” which delays you – so you wind up meeting a new, amazing, romantic partner.
You might have heard the expression, “Sometimes rejection is a redirection to something better.” Well, that’s what these people do. They might show up as a rejector – but they are a redirector.
Identifying roadblocks and re-directors in your life can be challenging. For one, due to the emotional connection and attachments you form with them, it can be difficult to let go. But when choosing people in your life, the best ones are those who truly care about you regardless of who you are, your flaws, and what you’ve achieved.
The truth is, some people are great pretenders. They may seem like re-directors, but they’re big roadblocks to your success. As such, rethink your relationships and assess a person beyond verbal cues to determine what they’re really up to and whether or not they’re for keeps.
Often your tormentors double duty as your mentors.
They are here to teach you important life lessons – via the process of pain – which helps you to grow who you are.
Their “crisis pain” creates the “crisis fuel” you need – to motivate a necessary change you didn’t want to put in the effort to make.
Plus, some people are just straight-up inspiring teachers – who teach you life lessons in a more loving manner.
Thankfully, some people are angels.
These people are here to protect you and remind you to stay safe and stay self loving.
They are “guardian angels” of some sort.
Their purpose: Make sure that you do not stray too far from the path you are meant to be on.
In times of need and desperation they help you – when others are not there for you.
They represent and symbolize something you want.
Their purpose: Motivate you to keep pursuing what you want – and stay on track.
Their presence helps to make sure you stay awake, energized and committed to moving forward on your soul’s true-to-you journey.
These are the ones who are here to stay the long haul.
These people are far and few between – but they are the ones who are loyally there for you during tough times and celebratory times.
They see you clearly and accept you as your “flawesome” self.
Tribe members support you when you are invisible to others.
Tribe members root for you with a pure heart – when others might feel competitive or jealous.
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