How To Deal With An Enemy or Toxic Person So They Don’t Get To You

How To Deal With An Enemy: See Them As A Tennis PlayerWant to know how to deal with an enemy or toxic person so they don’t get to you? This is one of the best tools.  Read on…

Do you have someone who is permanently in your life for good – who is behaving badly?

This person might be a..

  • friend
  • ex-romantic partner who remains the mother or father of your kids
  • family member
  • co-worker
  • boss
  • neighbor
  • etc…

Maybe they’re missing the “kindness gene” and just being a total jerk.

Well, if so – no worries! I have one of the best tools to help you to deal with their cruel behavior.

Psssst… I share more about this topic in my video course Manage And Avoid Drama Llamas – where I offer ta full range of techniques to disarm challenging people – and put up stronger boundaries. 

How to deal with an enemy or toxic person

I want you to start to think of this person as a “Metaphorical Tennis Player.”

View your enemy as someone who is helping you to improve at the game of life.

How & why to view toxic people as “Metaphorical Tennis Players”

As you might already know, one of the best ways to get better at tennis is to play with a worthy opponent.

When you play with someone who challenges you, they force you to step up your tennis game.

In fact, if you want to become a better tennis player, it actually helps a lot to have a tough opponent.

The more the other person hits that ball all over the court, the more they will help you improve how you play.

With the help of a tough opponent, you’re forced to bring in your A-game.

quote elisabeth loss strugglesWell, the same thing applies to becoming better at the game of life.

Often we don’t want to put in the effort to work on important life skills.

But we will work on these life skills – if we’re forced to!

And we’re finally forced to work on our “A Game” when we’re face-to-face with a “tough opponent” like an enemy.

The best way to deal with a toxic person…

Start thinking about this challenging person with the euphemistic name of “Metaphorical Tennis Player.

Think about it…

When you’re face-to-face with a “tough opponent” – a “Metaphorical Tennis Player” – you’re forced to reach deep inside yourself.

You then tap into places of strength, insight, wisdom and growth which were simply laying there dormant.

In fact, these parts of you might have continued to lay there dormant – had it not been for your “tough opponent” – your “Metaphorical Tennis Player”

Thanks to your “tough opponent” – your “Metaphorical Tennis Player” – you can work on life skills like…

  • developing your mental focus
  • getting better at setting boundaries
  • maintaining inner calm & patience in tough situations

4 Step Recap of How To Deal With An Enemy

  1. Re-name this enemy or toxic person as your “Metaphorical Tennis Player.”
  2. Start to think of them as someone who is here to actually HELP you to become stronger, better, wiser.
  3. Ask yourself what positive qualities your “Metaphorical Tennis Player” is here to help you to develop – thanks to their chaos and resistance.
  4. Try to be as thankful as possible that they are helping you to become a better player at the game of life.

Tired of dealing with toxic people?

Check out my ground breaking video course Manage & Avoid Drama Llamas!  

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Basically, I will teach you to be a boundary ninja!

Already these tactics have helped many thousands of people to set stronger boundaries – and talk to difficult people, so as not to escalate conflict.

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