Why Is It Hard to Tell The Truth Sometimes: 6 Reasons Why

Why Is It Hard to Tell The Truth Sometimes: 6 Reasons Why

Why Is It Hard to Tell The Truth Sometimes: 6 Reasons Why
Speaking the truth to someone can feel scary. But it’s important if we want to enjoy happy relationships – and want to maintain good core values. So why is it so hard to tell the truth sometimes?  Read on for 7 reasons why!

You know what’s funny? People can easily see all the stupid things other people do—but you have trouble seeing your own stupid errors.

Despite the fact that your error is right smack in front of your nose.

Or even smack on your cheek.

For example:

If you have a smear of ink on your cheek, you won’t be able to see it yourself.

You will know only when an honest friend tells you.

The same thing goes if you have a problem with being too cheeky.

Personally, I want to be alerted if I’m walking around too inky or cheeky.

If honesty really is the best policy for a happy, intimacy-filled life, then why do people sometimes find themselves avoiding telling the truth to someone?

By not sharing what’s going on deep down, you build surface-level relationships that can be lonely and unsatisfying.

Whenever someone chooses not to speak the truth, it’s because there’s some hidden perks to remaining mum.

 6 Reasons Why Is It So Hard to Tell The Truth Sometimes

1. You feel keeping quiet is the best path to be liked

Why Is It Hard to Tell The Truth Sometimes: 6 Reasons Why
Yep, you foolishly feel that by keeping a big, high wall between the other person and the truth, you will then stay closer to him or her.

The irony is obvious:

Without honesty and its incumbent vulnerability, you will never create true closeness and warmth.

You might tell yourself you’re being “more loving” by not talking openly. But in truth, your blocking love from flowing between you and the other person.

Remember: There are a range of loving ways to speak your truth without  hurting the other person deeply and/or creating massive conflict. I write about this here and here and here .

2. You feel superior by keeping people in the dark

On some level you know that by not giving the other person the opportunity to know and correct his or her misbehavior, you get to maintain your lesser view of that person.

And you’d rather be right than make the relationship be right.

And/or you’d rather keep that person in the dark, so you can shine brighter.

3. You don’t like change

You recognize that by not sharing, you don’t have to change – and the situation doesn’t have to change. Woo hoo! You prefer to cling to the status quo and your learned comfort zone.

4. You dislike vulnerability

Why Is It Hard to Tell The Truth Sometimes: 6 Reasons Why
Being vulnerable or seeing someone else be vulnerable isn’t easy for you.

Meaning?

You derive some emotional safety benefits from remaining separate and lonely.

5. You have low self-esteem

Basically, you worry people will look down on what you have to say, so you don’t speak up.

6. You learned to avoid conflict from a family who avoided conflict

Did you grow up in a family where people avoided conflict – and/or kept secrets, “stonewalled,” and basically did not speak openly?

Well… if so, then there’s a good change you not only inherited your mom’s nose and your daddy’s hair – you also inherited their “limited communication skills.”

Don’t worry. You have the power to disinherit this quality. I share some tools in this article.

7. You get to keep on beating yourself up

You get to keep on secretly beating yourself up about how bad a person you are for having this misbehavior. Some part of you likes to self-sabotage your happiness. I write about this more in an article here.

In Summary

With all the above in mind, I want to encourage you to start regularly sharing more gut-honest conversations with people—and thereby increase your daily intimacy and happiness.

Click here to read an article with tools to help you get the courage to speak your truth and own your voice!

Click here to read an article about whether your communication style hurts you or helps you!

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Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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