3 Effective Ways To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind In Hard Times

3 Effective Ways To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind In Hard Times

3 Effective Ways To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind In Hard Times
Dealing with hard times? Want to know how to let go and find peace of mind? These 3 simple NLP techniques will help you to release what’s holding you back from enjoying inner peace.

NLP is one of my favorite tools for training my mind to stay positive and peaceful. NLP stands for “Neuro-linguistic Programming.”

Quickly summarized:

  • NLP uses quick and simple “language” or “visual messages” to influence thoughts and behaviors.

NLP is a therapy built on the belief that when you use  “self-loving language” and “positive symbolic visuals” you can influence your subconscious mind to let go of negativing thinking and uncomfortable feelings. 

Today in this article I want to share 3 of my favorite techniques from NLP which can help to bring you the peace of mind you are seeking.

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Technique #1 To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind:

This NLP re-framing tool is simple to use. You take any negative thoughts you might be telling yourself – and “dilute” them – so they become a bit more positive.

For example, stop saying things like “I’m____”:

  • furious!
  • devastated!
  • completely crushed.

Replace these with milder expressions like “I’m_____”:

  • a bit miffed.
  • disappointed.
  • surprised.

The logic:

Sometimes it’s tough to start using completely pollyanna positive words  – when you’re in a truly dark place.

You can start to slowly inch forward to more positive language, by at least diluting negative words, so they’re less oppressive.

In general, you should do your best to mindfully pepper your thoughts, conversations, and journal writing with as many strong, uplifting words as you can. Then, you gotta keep your thoughts aimed in this positive direction!

Technique #2 To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind:

3 Effective Ways To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind In Hard Times
This NLP Technique is considered a combination of “Pattern Interrupt” and “Loop Break.”

I want you to create and regularly repeat a specific “comfort phrase” to interrupt your present negative thinking – and get yourself to pause, breathe, relax.

This “comfort phrase” works sort of like that famous concept of counting to 10 before you say something in anger. But it’s more fun to use.

In a way using a “comfort phrase” is like creating a “Positive Thought Jingle.” If you repeat the “comfort phrase” enough, eventually it will naturally start to play in your mind – like a “catchy jingle” – stuck on repeat.

How to use this “comfort phrase” in daily life…

Let’s say you feel a moving train of negative thoughts coming your way. You can stop that negativity right in its tracks, by repeating one of the following “comfort phrases.”

  • I’m the type of person who makes the world say yes to me.
  • I’m an indomitable spirit, a phoenix rising from the ashes. Nothing keeps me down!
  • When life gives me rough waves, I surf ’em!
  • I am a warrior.
  • Forward and upward.


Be sure to select only one specific “comfort phrase”  to own as your own.

You can speak or sing it – either out loud or silently in your mind.

If you use it regularly to interrupt your negative thinking, eventually you will start to feel more positive about yourself.

Technique #3 To Let Go And Find Peace of Mind:

This particular tool is for you to use to comfort the people you know who are going through hard times. However you can also use this technique on yourself.

The tool comes from Boris Cyrulnik, a famed French ethologist, who performed a lot of research studies on trauma recovery.

Cyrulnik discovered that many of the compassionate things people say to those undergoing a trauma can accidentally wind up hurting these folks.

For example:

  • “I’m so sorry!”
  • “You must be in so much pain!”
  • “How terrible for you that this awful thing happened!”

Cyrulnik noticed that if someone expressed too much pity or horror to someone dealing with hard times, they could accidentally escalate the sufferer’s emotional pain.

His recommendation?

Tell people going through a hard time:

  • “You are strong.”


Cyrulnik discovered when you remind someone how strong they are, you can actually help them to become more strong!

How can you use this word “strong” on yourself – to become more strong.

Whenever you share from the heart with someone about your challenges, be sure to end your conversation by saying:  “But I know I am strong and I can get through this.”

Plus, if you find yourself in an obsessive negative thought spree – even if you’re alone and obsessing in private – interrupt yourself immediately with the reminder, “But I know I am strong, and I will get through this.

Cyrulnik’s research on the power of the word “strong” reminds me of a famous research study done by John Bargh – on the power of words.

Bargh’s Famous Study

Bargh gave 2 different groups of people 2 different lists of words to un-jumble. He told them they were being tested on simple problem solving.

After the test was completed, the participants were asked to bring their lists to an administrator – who was deep in conversation with a colleague. Actually, this was when the true experiment kicked into gear!

  • All the participants given the list of words suggesting rudeness and aggressiveness became those exact words. They angrily interrupting the administrator.
  • However, of the participants primed with language suggesting patience and calm 82 percent never interrupted the administrator at all.

If you want to let go and move on, remember…

The words we use, hear and think are powerful! Try to pick words which support you and motivate you to think more peacefully and confidently. Eventually you will become a more positive, happy person.

Need more support to let go – and stop overthinking and overwhelm?

Check out all the many relaxation techniques in The Anxiety Cure, my bestselling video course. Learn more.

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Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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