How To Train Yourself To Think More Positively: 3 NLP Happiness Tools

How To Train Yourself To Think More Positively: 3 Simple NLP Tools

How To Train Yourself To Think More Positively: 3 NLP Happiness Tools

Want to learn how to think more positively? Try these 3 simple NLP Techniques!

NLP is one of my favorite happiness tools. NLP stands for “Neuro-linguistic programming.”

Quickly summarized:

  • NLP uses quick and simple “language” or “visual messages” to influence thoughts and behaviors.

NLP is a therapy built on the belief that when you use simple “self-loving language” and “positive symbolic visuals” you can influence your subconscious mind – which then leads you to choose more positive behaviors and more self-loving attitudes. 

NLP Technique #1:

Here’s a “Weird Truth.”  When you’re going through a challenging time, many of the compassionate things people say to you to help you can accidentally wind up hurting your healing process.

For example:

  • “I’m so sorry!”
  • “You must be in so much pain!”
  • “How terrible for you that this awful thing happened!”

Boris Cyrulnik, a famed French ethologist, wrote about this “Weird Truth” in a report about his recovering trauma patients.

He noticed that if he expressed too much pity or horror to one of his trauma patients, he could accidentally escalate their pain.

His recommendation instead?

Tell people going through a tough time:

  • “You are strong.”

Cyrulnik believes that by reminding someone how strong they are, you can actually help to make them become more strong!

I personally love Cyrulnik’s recommendation. I know when I’ve endured challenges in my life,  I appreciate being around people who reinforce my identity as a strong person.

When Cyrulnik recommends repeating the word “strong,” he is practicing NLP.

Whenever a trauma patient reminds themselves that they are “strong,” they are priming their subconscious minds with positive language that keeps them feeling positive and strong.

This NLP technique is a “re-framing tool” whereby you transform your “negative thoughts”  into more “positive thoughts.”

Reframing means….

  • You learn to think differently about your life and its challenges – and reframe tough times in a more positive way.

NLP Technique #2

This is another NLP re-framing tool – whereby you dilute strongly negative words so they become a bit more positive.

For example,  you stop saying things like:

  • I’m furious!
  • I’m devastated!
  • I’m completely crushed.

Instead replace them with milder expressions such as:

  • I’m a bit miffed.
  • I’m disappointed.
  • I’m surprised.

In general, you should do your best to mindfully pepper your thoughts, conversations, and journal writing with strong, uplifting words – which will keep you aimed in a positive direction!

NLP Technique #3

How To Train Yourself To Think More Positively: 3 NLP Happiness Tools
This NLP Technique is a combination of “Pattern Interrupt” and “Loop Break.”

I want you to create and regularly repeat a specific “comfort phrase” to interrupt your present negative thinking.

This “comfort phrase” is a more fun version of the famous “pause and count to 10 before you say something in anger.”

This “comfort phrase” is also highly effective because it ties into the same psychological power which advertising agencies use when they create a “catchy jingle” which stays in your head – stuck on repeat.

Basically, this “comfort phrase” becomes your very own “Positive Thought Jingle” – which eventually will naturally start to play on an ongoing basis in your mind.

How it works…

Next time you feel a moving train of negative thoughts coming your way – stop that negativity right in its tracks by repeating one of the following “comfort phrases” below.

  • I’m the type of person who makes the world say yes to me.
  • I’m an indomitable spirit, a phoenix rising from the ashes. Nothing keeps me down!
  • When life gives me rough waves, I surf ’em!
  • I am a warrior.
  • Forward and upward.

I also offer a range of other “comfort phrases” in this article here.

Select only one specific “comfort phrase”  to own as your own.

You can speak or sing it – either out loud or silently in your mind. If you use it regularly to interrupt your negative thinking, eventually you will start to feel more positive about yourself.

NLP is a pretty amazing phenomenon.

In 2000, researcher John Bargh set up the now-famous study that showed how the words we use strongly affects our behavior.

A Very Cool NLP Research Study

Bargh gave 2 different groups of people 2 different lists of words to un-jumble, telling them they were being tested on simple problem solving.

  • The first list contained words suggesting impatience, rudeness and aggressiveness.
  • The second list had words suggesting patience, politeness and calm.

After the test was completed, the participants were asked to bring their lists to an administrator – who was deep in conversation with a colleague. Actually, this was when the true experiment kicked into gear!

  • All the participants given the list of words suggesting rudeness and aggressiveness became those exact words—angrily interrupting the administrator.
  • However, of the participants primed with language suggesting patience and calm 82 percent never interrupted the administrator at all.

The lesson to be learned?

The words we use, hear and think are powerful! Try to pick words which support you and motivate you to think positively – and eventually you will become a more positive person and thereby do more positive and self loving habits.

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Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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