The same 4 stages which lead to the the rise and fall of civilizations also apply to the rise and fall of various aspects of your life.
1. boom times
If you examine this “4 Stage Pattern” closely, you’ll notice that these same 4 stages also easily apply to the rise and fall of a love relationship – or the rise and fall of a job – or the rise and fall of a diet – etc, etc…
In fact, if you’ve ever wondered why just when your life is going awesomely, suddenly things start to fall apart, it’s because relationships, jobs, diets (etc) all go through these same 4 stages: boom, over-confidence, complacency, mini-collapse/bust.
When you get to that “Stage 2” of “Confidence,” make sure you develop it into a “healthy kind of confidence” – the kind of confidence which bravely inspires you to stretch yourself all the more!
Don’t allow yourself to develop the “un-healthy kind of confidence” – which leads you into the dangerous arena of “Complacency”!
Here are some synonyms for “Complacency” – so you know what to keep a look-out for NOT becoming:
apathetic, disinterested, insensible, uncurious, halfhearted, lukewarm, aloof, numb, careless, mindless, bigheaded, egotistic, self-important, smug, vain
Now that you’re a bit more aware of the troubles “Complacency” can cause, I want you to get familiar with the “Antidotes to Complacency.”
Look at this list of adjectives below, and make a decision when you get to “Stage 2” in that “4 Stage Process,” that you will channel your confidence into developing these traits instead…
attentive, aware, conscientious, thoughtful, mindful, committed, passionate, curious, interested, down-to-earth, humble, caring, soulful, appreciative, empathic
“Confidence” in itself is not a bad thing. It’s only when you allow confidence to dangerously morph into “Complacency” that your problems begin.
During boom times, work on maintaining a healthy kind of “Confidence.” Use this healthy “Confidence” to stretch yourself even further (develop new levels of intimacy in your relationship, explore new skillsets in your job, check out new work-outs or new recipes for your diet, etc, etc). The more you use your newly acquired “Confidence” to stretch yourself further, the more you’re assured you will boom yourself upwards even further. But if during boom times you develop an “Over-Confidence” that leads to “Complacency,” then watch out! You might just be on your way to a crash and bust.
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Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.