I recently received this old photo of me from a new client. It was taken waaaaay back, when I was in my 30’s.
I’m the one in the middle – with the short hair and red lipstick.
My new client (the adorable one on the left in the beret) had taken this photo of us while I was on book tour for a business book I’d written.
I remember that book tour well. I was nervous around cameras.
It’s interesting to see this photo now. I recognize that I had a mild form of what psychologists call “Body Dysmorphia.”
a preoccupation with your body’s flaws – which thereby stops you from fully seeing the positive and beautiful aspects of your body clearly.
Body Dysmorphia is a true body-image disorder – which is characterized by persistent and intrusive preoccupations with an imagined or slight defect in one’s appearance.
My Body Dysmorphia was very mild.
I simply felt fatter than I truly was at the time.
Many of us have something we don’t like about how we look. A nose we wish was less crooked. Hair we wish was shinier. A stomach we wish was flatter. Or a tush we wish was smaller – or even bigger!
It was interesting for me to see this photo of me from my 30’s – now – so many years later.
Since that photo was taken, I had gone on to “self-love myself” into eating more healthfully.
But back when that photo was taken, I was at war with food and my body.
I was eating like I didn’t like myself – or like my body. This created a negative eating cycle – which was unhealthy for me in mind, body and spirit.
Now I’m at peace with both food and my body.
I’ve worked on my issues – and now I eat like I love myself – and love by body – which creates a positive eating cycle.
(Learn more here – about how I broke free from Body Dysmorphia and negative eating cycles.)
I realized how I’d foolishly wasted so much time in my 30’s – worrying about my cellulite – instead of appreciating my inner light.
As a result I had diminished my overall happiness.
Basically, my “Body Dysmorphia” had wound up creating “Life Dysmorphia.”Every time I focused on how big my tush looked, I simultaneously defocussed on the Bigger Things In Life.
I forgot all about the love I had to offer personally. And the impact I had to offer professionally.
As a result, I didn’t fully enjoy that amazing time in my life – when I was on book tour with my business book!
I should have been enjoying this amazing time – giving inspirational seminars not only in America – but around the world.
Unfortunately, my “Body Dysmorphia” wound up creating “Life Dysmorphia” – and interfered with the full joy and excitement I might have experienced.
In fact my reason for writing this essay was not even to discuss body dysmorphia!
I want to talk to you all about “Life Dysmorphia.”
These flaws don’t have to be body-related.
These perceived flaws could be about things that bug you from many varied and different aspects of your life.
Instead, I want you to realize it right now – today!
I want you to make sure you’re not what I call a “negative evidence collector” – on the hunt for proof that life is awful.
Instead I want you to be a “positive evidence collector” – on the hunt for proof that life is awesome.
I want you to embrace one of my favorite words…
This is when you recognize that you can have flaws in yourself/your life. And you/your life can still be very AWESOME.
You don’t need for things to be perfect, for you to feel perfectly wonderful. Right here. And now. In this very moment.
Starting today I want you to make it a daily habit to count your blessings – instead of counting calories! Plus …instead of counting SO-CALLED LIFE FLAWS!
Love yourself. Flaws and all. Appreciate the beautifully “flawesome” person you are!
You don’t need for things to be perfect for you to feel perfectly good about who you are. And what you have right now in this moment.
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It’s the perfect gift for someone you want to cheer on or cheer up – including yourself!
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