Read how I used visualization to find love – via this simple Law of Attraction tool!
Have you ever noticed that it’s easier to find a love partner when you have a love partner?
I believe it’s because you’re walking around feeling attractive and loved—which is very magnetic.
I’ve noticed this personally in my own love life.
In fact, I believe the sexiest thing a gal can ever wear to meet new men is another man’s arm around her shoulder.
Yes, that was a joke! Although it’s really kind of true!
When I was single and dating, I used to tell another joke which is also kinda true – this one about love and Tupperwear.
I’d tease that I wished I could take some of the new men I was meeting (while I was happily involved with someone else) put these new men in Tupperware and store them in my freezer.
My goal: I could defrost these other men later – should I ever break up with my partner.
My main point behind this joke: Whenever I’m involved with a man, I always find it far easier to attract more new men.
I believe this extra love magnetism happens due to Law of Attraction.
They say: Like attracts like.
Well, similarly feelings of love attract feelings of love.
This is why I recommend single people do visualizations to find love.
Coming up I will give you a tool I call a “Happily Ever After Mental Rental.”
Plus I will teach how to clearly visualize yourself in a happy relationship. As a result, you’ll walk around with the same “positive, confident love energy” as someone who is truly in a happy love relationship.
This positive, confident love energy will then help you to attract an abundance of romantic attention!
I’ve used visualization to find love in my own life.
I credit doing a “Happily Ever After Mental Rental,” with leading me to my present sweetie.
So… what is a “Happily Ever After Mental Rental” – and why does it work?
First let me back up a bit – all the way to 300 BC.
As many of my regular readers might know, I love Aristotle’s philosophies on true happiness and healthy love.
So much so, I named my son Ari as a wink to Aristotle’s name.
One of Aristotle’s philosophies:
“Begin all projects with the final ends in mind.”
He calls this your “teleology.”
“Shall we not, like archers who have a mark to aim at, be more likely to hit upon what is right?” Aristotle asked.
Right now I want you to take up Aristotle’s advice—and clearly state your teleology for your love life.
How do you envision your happily ever after love relationship?
I want you to write down – in detail – what happy love looks like, sounds like, feels like, smells like, tastes like, quacks like. Envision the type of activities you’d do with your partner. Maybe a romantic dinner or some exciting outdoor date idea.
Devote about 300 words at most to this description.
When you write out your visualization of happy love, include how you want to feel.
Your love visualization should not simply be about what your partner looks like – and where you want to live and go with your partner.
The love visualization should include how your partner makes you feel.
And I specifically suggest you include the feeling of safety.
I’m a BIG believer that a good partner is not just physically attractive, successful, funny, etc.
A good partner must make you feel safe to be your most authentic self.
Here’s another important key to doing a successful visualization to find love.
Your love visualization should be about a general kind of partner.
Do not envision a specific person.
You must leave room to meet someone new. You can think about someone you’re crushing on – then make a list of the qualities you love about this specific person.
Write out this nice long list of the qualities in a journal.
And be sure your list is not simply full of lots of physical traits.
Make sure your list of qualities include lots of positive character values you want to find in a love partner.
Also list the mission for your relationship.
How do you visualize your love partner?
- with kids or a dog?
- loving to travel or to live in one place?
- a fan of cooking lots of meals at home or eating out all the time?
- enjoying lots of physical intimacy or moderate/less physical intimacy?
Next, I want you to read your list of your ideal relationship. Then close your eyes and imagine all you’ve written about.
As mentioned above, be sure to imagine the feeling of being safe to communicate openly – and be your truest self.
Visualize your happy love relationship like it’s a little movie – a mental rental from Netflix.
Do this “Happily Ever After Mental Rental” for a tiny two minutes, twice a day.
- Do this love visualization once in the morning when you wake.
- Plus do this visualization once at night when before you go to sleep.
I’m asking you to do your love visualization twice a day for neurological reasons.
According to brain research, when you train your brain to repeatedly think new positive thoughts, you more permanently change your old way of thinking. Soon you naturally start to slide your thinking into these new energized “brain grooves.”
Marci Shimoff explains the power of positive thinking like this:
“When you change your thinking to support your happiness, your negative neural pathways shrink and your positive neural pathways widen. Eventually, over time, it becomes easier and more automatic for you to think more positively.”
Basically, when you do a “Happily Ever After Mental Rental,” you will walk around feeling more positive about yourself and your life.
The Result of Visualizing Happy Love?
- You feel more attractive and confident – because you’re imagining yourself as happily loved.
- Your attitude becomes more perky and positive.
- You have more of a sexy bounce in your step – and an appealing twinkle in your eye!
- You feel full of faith that you will find love.
Doing love visualizations helps you in many ways
Basically, emotional pain, fear and anxiety all have a much harder time existing when you can hold a long-term vision for a happier future.
In fact, I believe a lot of what contributes to the sadness and downward spiraling in our lives is a sense of hopelessness.
We are resentful that circumstances aren’t unfolding as we want.
Our negativity leads us to doubt we’ll ever find what we want.
Unfortunately every time you imagine worst-case scenarios, you refuel your hopelessness by sending a surge of blood flowing into brain regions associated with depression and anger.
If you want to feel happier on a daily basis—and create a brain environment that supports clarity and solutions—then you must consciously and consistently think positive thoughts – so you can redirect blood flow in a more positive direction.
Neuroscientists have forever sung lively praise about the neural benefits of visualization.
Studies consistently show how simply imagining positive circumstances sends blood flowing from your negative brain regions to your positive ones.
In fact, when you merely visualize doing an action, you stimulate the same brain regions as you do when performing that action.
A quick example of how visualization works
If you visualize lifting your left leg right now, you will stimulate the brain region that gets activated when you truly lift your left leg.
Because visualization is so mightily powerful, many professional athletes have trained for events by visualizing successful results.
I want you to apply this same proven science of visualization to your love life.
If you regularly use visualization to find love…
When you start to regularly teach your brain to think about the qualities found in good love relationships, you better set yourself up to attract a good love relationship.
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