Want to feel happier? Here’s a simple, effective tool to help you overcome limiting beliefs which block happiness by keeping you stuck and frustrated. Learn how to break bad patterns for good! Read on…
Over a decade ago I was home sick with stomach troubles. My friend Joelle suggested I order up papayas to heal my belly. So I ordered up papayas from a local Manhattan bodega.
“Um…. Excuse me,” I told the delivery guy when he arrived at my door, bag in hand. “These aren’t papayas. These are mangoes. I need papayas – for my tummy. I have a tummy ache.” I patted my stomach – and handed him back the bag.
“No, no, these are papayas,” the delivery guy insisted.
He was a young guy – in his early twenties – with dark brown curly hair – just like mine. I suddenly felt like his older, wiser sister.
“Um… sorry…. but no, those are mangoes,” I corrected him warmly. “I need papayas – because papayas are good for the belly – and I have a belly ache,” I re-explained.
He plucked one of the fruit objects from the bag, re-offered it to me for re-inspection. “Nope! You’re wrong. This is a papaya, lady.”
We passed the fruit object back and forth a few more times, until finally I decided to knock on my neighbor’s door.
Pam (of “Barney and Pam” ) answered, looking about eleven months pregnant, and in no mood for a fruit discussion. But I needed to know.“Excuse me, Pam,” I said, “Can you help us out. Is this a mango or a papaya?’
“Papaya,” she said.
“Papaya?” I repeated.
“Papaya,” the delivery guy repeated.
Both Pam and the delivery guy nodded their heads up and down – like those little wobbly-necked toy doggies.
Although their heads were saying “yes, yes, yes” – my mind still kept thinking “no, no, no.”
I couldn’t believe it! How could I have lived over 30 years on this planet believing papayas were mangoes?
I humbly accepted my bag of papayas (extra-tipping the delivery guy for his extra-patience ).
When I re-entered my apartment, I found myself feeling very philosophical.
My love life in particular popped into my mind.
In the same way that I could not distinguish a mango from a papaya, it seemed that (back then in my 30’s) I also could not recognize love from lust.
I remembered how in elementary school they held you back if you weren’t learning at the appropriate pace.
Well, at that point in my 30’s, I felt as if I should have been held back from getting older due to my inability to learn love lessons.
Later in my forties, I finally figured out how to distinguish love versus lust – and a variety of other important love lessons – all of which inspired me to make the changes I needed to finally enjoy the happy family life I now gratefully have.
Today I want to share with you the same powerful Sound Meditation I used to help me to see my limiting beliefs around love more clearly – then finally make the break though changes I needed to make to break my bad patterns in love for good.
Reminder: This particular meditation will help you to unblock limiting beliefs in all areas of your life – career, money, family, friendship, love relationships, stress, health – you name it.
Note: I shared this Sound Meditation in my book Instant Calm – which offers a range of sensory meditations – each based on tapping into one of your 5 senses: sight, sound, touch, smell, taste. You can learn more about all the many meditations I love to use here.
A mantra is a sacred utterance—either a word or a group of words with positive associations— that you say out loud – over and over – until you really feel it vibrate through your body and chakras. This vibration that the mantra creates then helps to release stored and stiff energy within you – allowing new energy and new thoughts into your system.
Mantras are a powerful “Sound Meditation,” and that’s a research-backed opinion.
A study in Brain and Behavior reported that repeating a single-word mantra, even without a spiritual context or other practices typical of meditation, had a definite calming effect.
A popular go-to mantra commonly recommended is the single spiritual syllable of “om.”
But I came up with an even more powerful mantra – the word “Calm” – repeated in the same way you’d chant om. But because the word “calm” has a known meaning of “relaxation” – this mantra double-duties as a Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) tool.
Quick Explanation of NLP: Neurolinguistic Programming is a therapy built on the belief that using positive and self-loving language can influence your subconscious mind.
If you do this Sound Meditation regularly, in time you will break through whatever limiting beliefs are keeping you stuck – and you will gain new insights, boosted inspiration, and helpful intuitions.
Want to get more in touch with your truest and highest self – and live your happiest life? Create a regular meditation practice, with all the many fun and simple sensory meditations in Instant Calm!
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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