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5 Simple Love Tips To Dramatically Improve Relationships [love research]

5 Simple Love Tips To Dramatically Improve Relationships [love research]Here’s some of my favorite love research, from top relationship researchers, to help you enjoy your happiest love relationship!

Are you struggling to feel close to your partner? Maybe you’ve tried to talk to them, but whenever you do try, immediately tempers flare.

Perhaps you’ve attempted to add a little romance by cooking a delicious dinner.

Or you invited your partner on an exciting outdoor date – like a picnic by a lake.

But nothing seems to be helping to revive your intimacy and connection.

If you relate, no worried, I’m here to help with some research-based love tips.

As you might already know, I wrote a bestselling relationship book called Prince Harming Syndrome (which also applies to Prince Harmings.) Plus  I’m the founder of the marriage counselor recommended digital course Secrets of Happy Couples. 

I love helping people to enjoy more fulfilling relationships.

With this in mind, take a peek below for some helpful insights to bring the romance back into your love life.

Love Research Tip 1:

Marriage researcher Dr. John Gottman’s main learned hypothesis…

The two top essentials for successful relationships.

  • respect
  • consistent daily affection

The number one destroyer of relationships:

  • contempt

If you want to be in a happy relationship, focus on expressing more appreciation.

  • When you criticize, don’t insult the person’s entire being.
  • Instead, focus on the aspect of behavior you’d like the person to work on – while making them feel respected as a person.

Dramatically Improve Relationships with small intimate moments

Love Research Tip 2:

Couples who remain married vs. divorced experience just as much conflict – but put in more “repair” – with a 5 to 1 ratio of nice to nasty moments.

Or as Dr. Gottman explained…

  • Satisfied couples maintained a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative moments in their relationship.”
  • In contrast, couples heading for divorce allowed the ratio to slip to very low…often to one-to-one.

Dr. Gottman’s prescription…

  • If you’re having problems with your honey, add more honey! Give a hug. Cuddle. Compliment.

Love Research Tip 3

Psychoanalyst Dr. Jani emphasizes the importance of two people being able to appreciate ordinary everyday moments together.

  • She recommends always starting your day asking: “Anything special going on today?”
  • At the end of the day, always ask: “Hey, how did that special thing go?”

love research states to show equality and support on a consistent basisAll this might seem obvious, but we can forget to ask about daily minutia.

The more you remember to ask about one’s day, according to Dr. Jani, the more your sex life will improve.

It will make your partner feel more connected with you!

Who knew? Simply asking:”How was your day, dear?” can lead to hot times in bed?

Love Research Tip 4:

Research consistently shows money plays a far lesser role in divorce – usually ranking about fifth in the blame line-up.

Money problems are less problematic than:

  • incompatibility
  • lack of emotional support
  • abuse
  • sexual problems

love research says a good love tip is constant open communicationAccording to Olivia Mellan (author of “Money Harmony: Resolving Money Conflicts in Your Life and Relationships”) even when couples fight about money, they’re often fighting about underlying problems.

Mellan reminds…

“Fights about money are usually more about what money represents: dependency, control, freedom, security, pleasure, self-worth.”

Love Research Tip 5

All psychologists agree: A couple is only as “strong” as their weakest moments — how they handle conflict!

There are THREE conflict strategies:

  • avoidance (the worst)
  • fighting (better than avoidance, but still not healthful or helpful)
  • validation (the winning method – which means trying to see things from the other person’s view, and sharing all views with kindness, and the goal of finding a win-win compromise!)

Translation:

  • When facing conflict, talk with your partner at the speed of life.
  • Do not shut down.
  • Do not attack.
  • And ABSOLUTELY avoid that #1 love vaporizer: condescension!

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