If you want to learn how to overcome negative self talk explore these 10 phrases – developed by a Master Mindset Coach.
Ever felt like your own mind is conspiring against you? You know, those moments when it’s like there’s this annoying radio DJ in your head, always tuned into the “Everything’s Going Wrong” station.
So, how did you accidentally subscribe to this pessimistic inner podcast?
Negative self-talk isn’t just a random flaw you developed out of nowhere.
It’s a habit of thinking you developed after….
- experiencing a range of negative past experiences
- being around negative people who infiltrated your thinking with their negative thoughts and beliefs
Plus, you developed this negative self talk due to evolutionary reasons.
- Our brains have this old-school habit of playing the “spot the danger” game – because back in the day, noticing that rustling bush could’ve meant the difference between life and… becoming lunch.
But no worries – you can change that negative self talk in your head.
- And I’m here to explain how.
I’m sharing this guide on ways to stop negative self talk because I’m a bestselling author on anxiety and leading Behavioral Change Coach – with about 2 million books sold globally.
Plus I founded the therapist recommended self-paced online course called The Anxiety Cure.
I love to help people to live calmer, happier lives.
So I put together this article all about ways to stop your negative self talk – and it all begins with something called Neuroplasticity.
What is Neuroplasticity?
Neuroplasticity is our brain’s incredible ability to reorganize itself. Think of it like the brain’s gym.
Just as you’d sculpt your muscles with consistent workouts, neuroplasticity allows you to reshape your brain’s structures and functions in response to experiences and new learning.
Because of Neuroplasticity you can train your brain to re-think how it responds to situations.
How? By repeating positive self talk phrases – to replace your negative inner voice.
So, if you’re ready to challenge and change that persistent inner critic – and champion a more supportive inner voice, you’re in the right place.
10 Phrases to Overcome Negative Self-Talk
Below you’ll find 10 positive self talk phrases to repeat to yourself when you feel stressed, depressed or fearful – so you can morph that negative inner voice into a more positive one.
1. “Well, hello, old friend. Thanks for dropping by – but I don’t need you right now.”
- Why it helps: It’s a polite nod to your fears while asserting your self-belief. By acknowledging the negative voice without resistance, you create a space to choose a different reaction.
- Use it when: That familiar self-doubt starts creeping in or you’re about to take on a challenge.
2. “Breathe. Reflect. Redirect.”
- Why it’s a grounding tool: It emphasizes the power of pausing before reacting, giving you a moment to shift your perspective.
Use it: When rapid, negative thoughts start bombarding you, and you need a momentary break to reset.
3. “This is just a thought, not a fact.”
- Why it’s a game-changer: It helps you separate yourself from the negativity.
- Best for: When you’re generalizing or catastrophizing.
4. “I am more than this moment.”
- Why it brings perspective: Life isn’t defined by one hiccup or setback.
- Best for: When a recent failure seems all-consuming.
5. “I’ve survived my worst days.”
- Why it’s a morale booster: It’s a reminder of your resilience and strength.
Pull this out: On those particularly gloomy days.
6. “Is this what I’d say to a friend?”
- Why it’s eye-opening: Encourages empathy towards oneself.
- Recall it when: The internal critique gets harsh.
7. “Let’s find the lesson here.”
- Why it’s constructive: It shifts the focus from blame to growth.
- Use it: When ruminating over mistakes.
8. “Progress, not perfection.”
- Why it soothes: Celebrates the journey rather than fixating on an unattainable ideal.
- For times when: The perfectionist in you gets too loud.
9. “What’s the next right move?”
- Why it’s a beacon: It grounds you in the present and the actionable.
- Bring it forth when: Feeling overwhelmed.
10. “Every thought isn’t worth a reply.”
- Why it’s liberating: Reminds you that not every internal nudge deserves a reaction.
- Save it for: Those times when you’re spiraling into ‘what ifs.’
Conclusion: Overcome Negative Self Talk
Now you have toolkit of ten killer phrases to use every time your brain goes rogue on you and you find yourself thinking negatively.
Remember, just because your mind’s spewing out a bunch of negative nonsense doesn’t mean you have to sit there and take it. Use these tools! Flip the script.
And if you need more support – explore my online program, “The Anxiety Cure Online Course.”
>>> Or explore bringing me on as your Mindset Coach and working with me 1-on-1 via Zoom.
Either way, I can help you to tackle your internal monologue… and craft it into a voice that encourages you to create a life you truly love.
Think happier. Think calmer.
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