If your sizzle has fizzled, and you want to boost your love, here are 7 ideas for how to keep your relationship exciting.
We’ve all been in relationships where after a while, it feels like those initial sparks and fireworks are beginning to dwindle to a smaller sizzle.
That doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. It just means you need to put a little more effort into reigniting the fire.
As you might know, I’m a bestselling happiness author, relationship columnist for Oprah, and resiliency columnist for Psychology Today.
I’m also the founder of the research-backed Secrets of Happy Couples Video Course – where I give tools and insights to help couples to maintain their connection, attraction, communication and mutual respect for each other.
Unfortunately, when a couple’s emotional connection begins to fade, so can their relationship bond. No worries! I’m here to help point you in the right direction! I’ve put together this guide on how to keep your relationship exciting.
Below are 7 helpful ideas to add a little sizzle to a relationship that might have fizzled. Plus you can always find articles on love on sites like Bumble,Match, FlirtSavvy – or if needed – specific relationship sites for older people or religious people, etc…
You don’t need to plan and organize an entire vacation to a secret destination. But it’s always nice to surprise your partner with little gifts, tokens, or things to show you’ve been thinking about them. This can be a great way to keep the excitement alive in your relationship.
When you’re regularly surprising your partner with loving gestures, you can keep your relationship fresh. You’re forced you to regularly think about things that might cheer up your partner or make their day. Appreciation is a great aphrodisiac. It’s nice to always be reminding your partner of how much you care for them and reigniting the passion that attracted them to you in the first place.
Love letters have always been a way to communicate your feelings to your loved one. And the combination of affirming your love in written form and anticipation of waiting for a reply make for a heady cocktail.
To keep the excitement in your relationship alive, why not try the modern-day equivalent. Send a romantic text message to your partner the next time you’re apart.
Alternatively, you could leave cute little notes lying around for your significant other to find during their day – so they know you’re always thinking of them.
This one might sound obvious. But as life throws its challenges and responsibilities at us, it can be easy to let what was once an active dating life with your partner dwindle to staying in and eating on the couch for the fourth time this week.
Let’s face it, as much as you love someone, this can become a little dull over time. So, to keep the excitement going and to ensure you’re spending regular quality time with your significant other, schedule date nights together as a couple.
Doing something that you’ve always wanted to do but have never tried before is exciting in any case. So regularly try something new with your partner. This can be a great way to strengthen your relationship as you enjoy this excitement together.
Whether it’s a cooking class or volunteering together, trying something new can help you grow as a couple. As a bonus, you might get a new hobby or new friends out of it.
As well as trying new things together, it can be exciting to try old things that your partner is passionate about – like their hobbies or sports interests. This will strengthen the bond between you, can be incredibly fun and open your eyes to new experiences. Plus you will be showing your partner that you care about them.
It’s important to try and remember to do this beyond the initial honeymoon phase, as this can help keep the relationship exciting long after you first started dating.
Socializing with other couples can be good for your own relationship as it can help you see how other people work through challenges and celebrate their successes.
Try to spend time with other couples with whom you have things in common and who have a strong relationship of their own. Plus, hanging out with friends can lead to having a great time with your partner which will keep the relationship fun and exciting.
What can be more exciting (or in some cases, nerve-wracking) than imagining what your future with your partner might look like? Not only is it important to establish whether or not you share the same dreams and goals, but it can also help you look forward to the future.
I hope that I’ve been able to provide you with some inspiration for the next time you start to feel like your relationship could use a bit of an excitement boost.
Remember that communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. So if trying these tips for keeping the excitement alive doesn’t work, try to have a conversation with your partner. Explain how you are feeling. You can then work on it together. I share a lot about this in my video training.