If you’re dealing with uncomfortable emotions, you might want to explore the many benefits of professional counseling. Here’s a convenient summary of what to expect.
Depression is a very sensitive subject. Some people know they’re going through depression. But some don’t have an idea that they are going through such until a friend or family member points it out.
If you think that life is getting more and more unbearable and you feel constantly hopeless and helpless, it may be time for you to entertain the possibility of seeking professional help. Your family and friends may be there to listen. But they cannot be expected to give good advice. Most of the time, they will only tell you what you want to hear, not what you really need to hear. Worse, they might shrug off your problems and just chalk it up as a temporary phase.
If you choose to not talk about your problems to someone, that’s alright. It’s fine to keep it to yourself for a while. However, you cannot do that for long. Depression eventually takes a toll on your mental and physical health. Sooner or later, you have to face the situation and talk to someone about it. If you think your family or friends cannot help, it’s time to admit that you need counseling and seek a professional.
As you might know, I’m a bestselling author and happiness researcher. I wrote a book called Happy Habits.
In my research, I learned which habits lead to the greatest happiness. I discovered that being able to communicate your inner most feelings – to people who you feel connected to and supported by – brings a lot of joy, calm, stability and fulfillment.
Professional Counseling is an opportunity to feel connected and supported. It’s a collaborative effort. Counselors help clients, like you, to identify potential solutions to issues that cause emotional turmoil. They encourage and help improve healthy coping mechanisms and improve one’s self-esteem while promoting behavioral changes. On the other hand, as the client, you have to cooperate with your counselor and go through the processes and methods that are set to help you.
So, whether you are dealing with personal, marital, and other personal issues in life, counseling is a good way to get yourself back up and regain your focus. Aside from that, there are more potential benefits when you seek professional counseling, here’s what you need to know.
It’s easy for most of us to lose sight of life’s possibilities and just view ourselves from a one-sided perspective. However, when you let your emotions and thoughts out, it will allow the other person to “see” and understand you. This is what a professional counselor can do, and they can help you see life from different perspectives. A change of perspective is what you sometimes need to reassess problems and find new ways to cope or solve them.
If you cannot share your feelings and issues with friends and family because you fear getting judged, then it’s best to talk to a complete stranger like a professional counselor. Since your counselor does not know you personally and there’s no history between you two, he or she can view your behavior more objectively. You can pour out all your frustrations and issues without judgment.
Moreover, you’ll have the convenience of anonymity, and you will feel secured by the fact that whatever you say will not reach other people. Your personal issues won’t become the talk of the town. That’s something you don’t need to worry about if you seek a professional counselor.
Many people who don’t seek professional help for anxiety or depression tend to develop bad habits as their coping mechanism. This includes alcoholism, and even drug addiction.
With a professional counselor, however, you could avoid these unhealthy habits and focus on productive and better coping mechanisms instead. Your counselor can help you identify which activities are best for you. It could be simple exercises, meditation, gardening, or rediscovering an old hobby.
You have all these pent-up emotions that can make you feel hollow and hopeless. If you let these all out, you will feel liberated and relieved. Bottled-up feelings are not good, but once you find someone who can help and listens without judgment, you will feel relieved. This could also help lower your stress levels and give you the courage to face a new day in life.
Examining your emotions with a professional counselor allows you to see yourself from the outside. This gives you a greater sense of self-awareness. Once processed, this helps you feel more at peace with yourself, and give you a boost of self-esteem and confidence in the process.
These days, many of us are just too busy or afraid to confront difficult feelings. Some people just don’t like to sit and process feelings such as grief, guilt, remorse, or immense sadness. With professional counseling, you dedicate some of your time to confront negative feelings and process them in a way that helps you improve and live a better life later on.
With professional counseling, you can determine the root cause of why you’re going through such emotional and mental turmoil in life. Counseling could help you work on these problems step-by-step, and helps you move forward. With a good counselor, you can eventually learn how to sort things out, straighten up your priorities, and choose your battles wisely.
Depression can suck the joy and life out of you. Even the simplest things such as getting out of bed, showering, and eating could feel like an immense task. But once you get to talk to a professional counselor and start acquiring healthy coping mechanisms and perspectives for yourself, you can later gain your energy and motivation back. You can sleep more soundly, retain a routine or schedule, and gain an appetite. As time goes on, you will find yourself more productive, and could even get started on setting goals for yourself!
Lack of good planning is one of the leading causes of a person’s inability to meet goals and objectives. Many people get depressed after experiencing a string of failures. With professional counseling, you can see what truly matters, and help you realize that failures are not the end-all-be-all in life. A professional counselor can help you identify new goals and objectives, depending on your priorities, then lay out a step-by-step approach for you to achieve them.
There are some aspects of life that cannot be changed, no matter how heavy or difficult they may be. While some have a chance of change or improvement, this is not always possible. Feeling depressed after the death of a loved one, for example, is difficult because there’s really no way of bringing back the dead.
No, your counselor will not just tell you that “it is what it is,” but he or she will help you see that there are more things to look forward to in life, even after an emotionally traumatic event.
A professional counselor knows when you’re anxious, even if you don’t want to acknowledge it. They can easily sense that, especially if it’s still your first time seeking professional help.
It’s normal to feel anxious, especially if you are not yet comfortable talking about personal issues with a complete stranger. That setting alone can easily trigger a fight or flight reaction.
A good counselor, however, will know how to control or handle an anxious client. They know that they don’t have to be pushy and would rather just allow the client to feel at ease and be more comfortable sharing their stories after a few sessions. Aside from that, professional counselors are generally equipped to handle and help clients with anxiety, not just depression.
At some point in our life, there are times that we would experience emotional fatigue because of stress from work or a sudden life-changing event such as divorce, death, or abandonment. In these moments, it’s easy to lose one’s emotional balance and self-worth.
This is where professional counseling comes into the picture.
They can help you channel frustrations and stress in an apt manner and help you regain your emotional balance with therapy. A good counselor can help you realize your own value. They will reintroduce you to yourself in a positive and refreshed manner.
In counseling, it’s not always about your feelings, but it’s also about other people as well. Professional counselors could help you understand the perspectives of people around you, relate to them, and understand their emotions better.
Improving empathy can also help you view life in different ways and perspectives. Understanding other people will help you manage stress, anger, and expectations. A lack of understanding or empathy usually leads to more stressful situations and can lead to emotional turmoil.
If you lack good judgment and you struggle to make the right decisions for yourself, a good counselor could help you with that. If you make the right decisions, you would more likely avoid stressful situations and bad habits. You can contribute to society in a more effective manner, and your personal development is going to be by leaps and bounds.
By seeking professional counseling, you’re giving yourself the chance to get another shot in life. You are also giving yourself the chance to balance out the positive and negative emotions that you have. These counselors know the importance of your overall well-being, and they can help you more if you share your thoughts and personal issues honestly. So, if you’re having a hard time talking to people that are close to you, a professional counselor is what you need.