Why Do People Break Up? 9 of the Most Common Reasons

Why Do People Break Up? 9 of the Most Common Reasons

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Are you wondering why do people break up? If yes, you should check out our list of common reasons for break ups and relationship problems.

Up to 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. will end in divorce, according to the American Psychological Association.

And that figure doesn’t even take into consideration the rest of non-marriage relationships that end.

But these statistics do little to answer the question…

“Why do people break up?”

Indeed, there are so many reasons why people break up. We don’t have time to list them all. So we’ll share nine of the most common causes for a split.

1. Cheating

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Twenty percent of men and 13 percent of women surveyed by the Institute for Family Studies admitted to cheating on their partners. All of these respondents were married.

Of course, cheating happens in all sorts of relationships, whether or not rings were exchanged. And it’s not just a physical barrier that has to be breached. Some couples break up because of an emotional affair.

Cheating ends so many relationships because it ruins the trust that a couple once shared.

It’s possible to rebuild it. But, in many cases, cheating breaks a bond irreparably.

The best way to avoid this pitfall? Don’t cheat. And prioritize choosing partners who you feel value loyalty and trust.

2. Unbecoming Behaviors

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Often partners walk away when they realize that one or both of them won’t let go of bad habits or behaviors.

It could be something simple, such as smoking. One person does it. And the other doesn’t like it.

Or maybe, the couple is plagued by addiction, debt or another huge burden that feels insurmountable.

Plus perhaps someone has a bad temper – or a drama king or drama queen – causing consistent conflicts.

Such behaviors can tear a couple apart. To fix the relationship, one or both partners will have to adjust their bad habits. In many cases, though, they end up walking away. (Get my tools to manage and disarm toxic people here!)

3. Lack of Support

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In any relationship — friendship, parent-child, boyfriend-girlfriend — people look to one another for support.

But if this support disappears in a romantic relationship, it could send a person packing.

The reason here is simple. If one person doesn’t sympathize with their partner’s problems, the latter will feel like their feelings have no merit.

So, the person left unsupported could leave the relationship for lack of understanding. Or, the person who doesn’t care might walk away for that very reason.

4. Withholding Affection

Holding hands. Hugging. Kissing.

A romantic relationship revolves around affection. If one partner stops giving it, the other may ask for a bit of extra love. When that doesn’t work, though, the relationship could fall apart.

This problem may be a big one to consider if you want to get your ex back. Evaluate your behaviors — or lack thereof — that caused the break-up. And consider making your affections known from here on out.

5. Different Dreams For the Future

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Couples that go the distance will have the same vision for the future, plain and simple.

If you fail to discuss such a topic, you give yourself a major reason to break up down the line.

Let’s say, for example, that one half of a couple wants kids, while the other doesn’t see that for their future. If they don’t discuss such a serious topic early on, they will set themselves up for a future break-up.

6. Comparisons to Other Relationships

Respect your uniqueness. Drop comparison. Relax into your being. Rumi

Your friends are way more affectionate in their relationships than you. How does that reflect on your partnership?

It shouldn’t. However, some couples can’t get over the tendency to compare themselves to others.

Perhaps they see other couples with more money and bigger homes and wonder if their partner’s underachieving. Or, maybe a pair seems more compatible, and they wonder if they can do better.

No matter what causes the comparison, such a thought can break down a good relationship. In general, though, you’re better off focusing on yourself. Comparing yourself or your relationship can get you into trouble.

7. Failure to Compromise

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A healthy relationship requires compromise.

No matter how compatible you are, you won’t agree on everything.

However, both halves of the relationship have to be willing to bend. It can’t be one person doing all of the changing and adjusting. Otherwise, they’ll grow tired and walk away.

Of course, two people unwilling to compromise won’t ever work, either. That type of relationship will probably end as soon as it starts — frustrations will undoubtedly flare up between two stubborn people.

8. Secrets

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Even if your secrets have nothing to do with your relationship, they could tear you and your partner apart.

Again, this one all goes back to trust. If you can’t tell your partner the pain or regret you carry, then you do not have that base level of trust.

On that note, lying about having secrets can ruin a relationship, too. Sometimes, partners will throw the fact that they have secrets in each other’s faces. Obviously, this tendency isn’t healthy, either.

Regardless, secrets eat away at a person, and they can cause a relationship to crumble, too.

9. Huge Life Events

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The outside world can affect your relationship, as well.

Perhaps a partner loses a job. Or, one of you loses a parent unexpectedly. If you have a child together and they get sick, your relationship as parents and partners could change, too.

Such life-altering events can change you or your partner irreversibly. Someone may handle the situation in a way that the other finds unacceptable. Or, a person may turn to substances or other addictions to get through such a rough patch.

No matter what, these moments can shatter a once-working relationship.

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Why Do People Break Up?

It’s a Great Question.

There’s no one answer to the question, “Why do people break up?”

Every couple will have their reasons.

These are just some of the most common causes for a split.

Love to hear from you below in the comments section. What are some reasons for break ups which you have experienced.

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