Consistently happiness researchers report that being surrounded by loving friends is a top determinant for happiness!
Plus fulfilling adult friendships are not only good for your mind and spirit – but your body, too!
According to a 2010 report in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, strong adult friendships have been linked to a boosted immune system and increased longevity!
Unfortunately, sometimes life can become so extra chunky busy – that it’s tough to find time to nurture and maintain our adult friendships.
With this in mind, I created a bestselling gift book called Friends Forever (Whatever, Whenever) which is a helpful way to show friends that you appreciate them! This gift book is a gorgeously illustrated celebration of friendship – to give to a good friend to cheer them up – and cheer them onward. Learn more here!
But…I digress! I chose to write this article today, because I recognize the many benefits of lifelong friendships. So I decided to share some beneficial “friend insights” and “effective friendship bonding ammo” to help you to deepen and lengthen your adult friendships!
If you’re going through an extra chunky busy period – be sure to clearly let friends know – so they don’t personalize you’re going M.I.A. (Missing. In. Action.) Also let your friends know when you might get back to I.A. again. For example – send a quickie text: “I’m overwhelmed with a work deadline! Miss you! Done and back for a coffee catchup in about 2 weeks!”
Examine your schedule and get honest with yourself. Explore if you can make more time for people. Truth is: Many friendships go downhill because of lack of effort and extra chunky busy-ness.
If you’re truly overly-busy, explore how to multi-task meeting up with a friend while doing other things on your “to do list” – like going to the gym, spin class, pedicures, hair appointments, eating lunch – even grocery shopping!
Be realistic about your friends’ schedules and personal responsibilities. If they’re busy a lot – empathize with their overwhelm. Don’t guilt-trip people. Conversely, if they’re not busy – and always reach out first – acknowledge their loving efforts and thank them.
Remember big life events – and even small and medium sized life events – everything from birthdays to new job responsibilities to scary doctor’s appointments to important work deadlines to romantic things like break ups/blind dates. Check in to celebrate and/or to see how things went. For example you can send a quickie text: “Thinking of you today!”
Make sure when you do meet up with friend, you share openly and vulnerably – and listen to them with an open mind and full heart. Friendships deepen when there’s lots of shared empathy and shared self-disclosure.
Regularly do small acts of kindness to let your friends know you appreciate them. Buy them coffee or lunch. Bring them flowers. Or send them my new book Friends Forever (Whatever, Whenever)to let them know you love and appreciate them!
Check out Karen Salmansohn’s bestselling gift book for friends – Friends Forever (Whatever, Whenever) – and read the consistent 5 star reviews!
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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