According to my favorite Greek philosopher Aristotle, we humans are biologically social animals.
Our first nature is to be around others!
However if you’re going through a challenging time (aka: a break up, a work rejection, a money problem, a trauma, a difficult illness, the passing of a loved one) often being around other friends feels much more like a 2,841st nature.
In my bestselling book Think Happy, I share research which shows it’s far more healthful to be around friends during challenging times.
Dr. Dina Carbonell, a research associate at Simmons College, studied the secrets of people who successfully bounced back from hard times.
She tracked 400 people for 25 years, from ages 5 to 30, studying the main characteristics of those who did best in difficult circumstances.
“Resilient people identify those who are available, trustworthy and helpful. Then they go towards this light,” says Dr. Carbonell.
In psychologist Professor Ed Diener’s research he’s found that close relationships actually influence overall joy far more than income!friends with whom they can discuss important problems, are 60% more likely to say that they are “very happy.”
According to Dr. John Haidt the urge for humans to seek the sweetness of other people is just as natural and strong as bees who migrate towards a honey hive.
Haidt believes we humans, just like bees, feel the most comfortable and thriving when we are members of a larger hive.
Hence why many folks feel so unsettled and lost when alone too often, without the comfort of others.
So if you want to feel at the top of your game, it’s essential to spend time buzzing around with supportive friends during challenging times!
Make sure you are playing the right amount of hide and seek!Figure out who your sweet hive people might be.
Make a list of all the people you consider close friends.
Next, ask yourself:
These are your your supportive hive people.
Go towards these hive people often! Let them know how much you appreciate them often – and your hive will further thrive!
One of the indirectly good things about going through bad times?
It can bring you closer to others, bonding you in a truly emotionally, meaningful way!
If you have a friend going through a challenging time, cheer them up and cheer them on with my bestselling gift book: Friends Forever Whatever Whenever – from Random House!
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