How To Love The Real You in 3 Simple Steps

How To Love The Real You In 3 Simple Steps

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(guest blog by the talented Anna Jorgensen)

It took years of stumbling and bumbling about – trying to figure stuff out – making many daft choices.

Now, finally, I’ve found and like me. Yay!

This is kind of a big deal because I’ve always had low self-esteem.

It so wasn’t easy.

Now I’m in love with me – but in a healthy, non-narcissistic way.

I want to share my treasure map for how to find greater self love  – in a more direct, time-saving, heart-saving, mind-saving journey.

I want you to fall in love with you.

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In my embarrassingly honest memoir, Me: A Rewrite, From Vanity Insanity To Self-Acceptance (Sort Of), I share a two year snippet of my secret life in a big city – leading to the climax of my midlife crisis –  which led me to ultimately embrace authenticity and self-acceptance.

Every chapter includes a “What have I learned?” idea – and some self-homework.,

However, there are only 3 life-tipping epiphanies.

Here they are – my 3 “self love epiphanies”…

  1. Be your own best friend! How? Stop, step back, look, listen. Step back and pretend you are looking at you from another you’s perspective—the “Most Loving Best Friend Forever [MLBFF] you”—not the scaredy-chicken oh-my-god-what-do-I-do-what-will-they-think you. Make your MLBFF the boss of you. Now, listen to that little niggling feeling deep down inside, that gut feeling. That’s intuition and it’s our guiding light. What would your MLBFF want for you? Do that!
  2. Perception is everything. How something or someone makes us feel gives it/him/her

    value. More so, it’s how we perceive things that make us feel happy-sad-angry-hurt-disappointed-fat-skinny-brilliant-whatever! When we change our negative perceptions (about ourselves and others) we have the emotional/mental/vibrational space to find what is truly good for us. Good for us leads to love for us. And since perception is just a story we make up in our minds, let’s make up feel-good ones. Pay attention to perception and use auto-correct to change course when needed. Remember: it takes practice, not perfection!
  3. Be a Self-love Narcissist. Narcissism has a bit of a bad rep. True, those who are wholly only self-interested are actually self-loathing not self-loving – but there is a healthy balance. Sometimes, the most authentic and loving thing to do for ourselves—and often even others—is to take care of us first. (Responsibly, of course.) Only then do we have the energy, vitality and spirit to bestow our best on others. It’s okay to set boundaries, say No, and indulge in self-care. In fact, it’s a necessary step in respecting and loving ourselves, if I dare say. (I do!)

My motto in life is simple: If it feels good, do it. If it feels bad, knock it off already!

We’re talking big picture feel good, not eat-six-cupcakes-in-a-sitting-feel-crappy-after.

When we take the time to really listen to whatever is speaking to us from the abyss of our soul, we can’t not help but find out who we are and what we really want.

When we find that there’s nothing left to be done but figure out how to get on Life’s Bliss Path. And we will.

We deserve it and we inspire others as we show what can be done.

About the Author: Hi! I’m Anna Jorgenson – author of Me: A Rewrite, From Vanity Insanity To Self-Acceptance (Sort Of)  I offer a free 50 page peek and buying options here. Warning: Naughty words, feisty content & TMI! My purpose: Entertain! Inspire! …and “Be happy, dammit,” as Karen Salmansohn says – and I say much thanks to Karen’s many inspirational books which have helped me to find my Life’s Path, my purpose and my self!  Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter and my naughty potty blog.

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Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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