Note: This is a guest blog essay by the inspiring Lindsay Kriger!
I’m a big believer that if you want to attract a man, you shouldn’t play hard to get. You should be hard to get. Let me tell you: what a difference a teeny two-letter word can make!
Seriously. You should actually be busy and having fun.
And not just be playing at being busy having fun.
Create a purposeful life for yourself, where you’re fully engaged – instead of making “getting engaged” your sole focus.
I want to add here:
You should create an exciting life for yourself because you feel a genuine sense of self-worth, and know that you deserve a fantastic life.
(If it is the sense of self-worth that you’re struggling with- well, start by imagining the life you think someone who loves themselves would live and try it on for size!)
Instead they start to expect they’ll get all of their needs met from being in the relationship.I’ve learned the hard way that this is how you get burnt out… very quickly.
Not only do you get burnt out- but your man does too!
It’s truly bad for your spirit to stop talking to your friends, stop doing girls dinners, stop doing the things you love (like going to the gym) simply because you’d rather spend time with your guy.
When you look to your relationship as your only source of power and forget about all of the other things in your life that reenergize you, you begin to drain each other, instead of recharge one another.
You will have far more to contribute to your relationship when you create a meaningful life for yourself, apart from just your partnership. Men are super attracted to women who are actively engaged in life – who have things to offer them, to teach them.
Always remember: You are a unique individual, with a purpose on this earth!
In fact, this “unique, inspired, passionate you” is the “appealing you” who attracted your man in the very first place.
Hence you should never put this “appealing you” in the very last place!
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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