10 Ways To See The Good in Bad Situations [A Quick Optimism Lesson]

10 Ways To See The Good in Bad Situations [A Quick Optimism Lesson]

10 Ways To See The Good in Bad Situations [A Quick Optimism Lesson]

I personally know how tough life can feel at times. I also know that if you put in the effort to expand your perspective, you can always see a glimmer of something good even in bad situations.

There’s always a lesson to be learned – and strength to be earned.

I am always reminding my coaching clients to seek out a little bit of happiness in all of life’s crappiness. I purposefully say it in a funny way – to loosen up people’s tight grip on their commitment to negativity. But I am a big believer in taking time to search for the gain in one’s pain.

Charles R. Swindoll said it well when he wrote:

10 Ways To See The Good in Bad Situations [A Quick Optimism Lesson]
“We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”  ― Charles R. Swindoll

Below are 10 reminders for how to make sure you can see the good in bad situations – a kind of quick crash course in optimism.

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10 Ways To See the Good in Bad Situations

  1. Repeat the following phrase until it sinks into your brain cells: “Things are happening for me – not to me.” Become curious – not furious. Think up reasons to believe that “rejection is redirection” and “not getting what you want” is actually “bringing you to something better.”
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    Ask yourself: “What else can this mean?” Reminder: We live in a world of a million and one interpretations. Try not to stay focused on simply one interpretation. Plus definitely don’t focus on the very worst interpretation.
  3. Ask yourself directly: “What could be something good which comes from this situation – even if I must wait a while for the good to emerge?” Get creative. Brainstorm possibilities.
  4. Ask yourself: “What level is your problem on a scale of 1 – 10?” Then make sure your emotional response is appropriate for the challenge being presented.  Don’t allow yourself to feel 10 level emotional pain over a 3 level problem. Reminder: If your situation is temporary – and not permanent – then you should not be allowing yourself to feel a level 10 in emotional pain.
  5. Ask yourself:  “How would someone you respect deal with what you’re facing?”
  6. Make the word “forward” your new mantra – then aim your thoughts and actions in that direction.
  7. Focus 20% on the problem – and 80% on the solution.
  8. Focus 20% on what’s going wrong in your life – and 80% on what’s going right in your life. Gratitude to a great antidote to negativity.
  9. Create a plan – so you feel like there’s a way out from where you presently are. Write it down. Become super clear on your vision for what you want your life to look like – then super clear on the steps you need to take to get yourself there.
  10. Make a list of all the lessons you’re learning. Thank your pain for all the gain.

Think happier. Think calmer.

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Karen Salmansohn (Founder)

Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.

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