Note: This is a guest essay by Jennifer Pastiloff
This morning in my yoga class I asked everyone to write down on sticky notes what they were going to say Yes to today.
This photo to the left is one showing some of their answers.
They put them over their hearts during Savasana (final resting pose).
Very powerful stuff.
Later that night, I shared this “Yes” themed poem in another class – because I have fallen absolutely in love with it.
I asked God if it was okay to be melodramatic
and she said yes
I asked her if it was okay to be short
and she said it sure is
I asked her if I could wear nail polish
or not wear nail polish
and she said honey
she calls me that sometimes
she said you can do just exactly
what you want to
Thanks God I said
And is it even okay if I don’t paragraph
Sweetcakes God said
who knows where she picked that up
what I’m telling you is
Yes Yes Yes
I have found that sometimes saying Yes is complicated and rough around the edges but then I remember that so is my life, so I keep saying yes, even when every bone in my body whispers No you mustn’t expect any more miracles.My life has never been a neatly organized drawer or a perfect day for sailing, yet I have gone sailing anyway and gotten capsized and sunburnt but here I am still. Nor has my life ever been what I thought it would be when I looked out from the vantage point of childhood, from the top a staircase in New Jersey all the way down into my teens, and 20′s, my 30′s. Never got past the 30′s. Most likely because my father died at 38 and in my child’s mind that was the end of life as we knew it.
Sometimes saying yes means saying no and as cliche as that sounds, you must believe me when I tell you: You have to say no sometimes. To that tea, or this lunch, or picking up that shift, or the wedding or whatever it is that is yelling at us in every language NO and yet what comes out of our mouth is a half-hearted Yes.
Here I am sick after 3 weeks partly because I say yes to too much. And my saying yes to too much is not really a saying yes (it’s getting convoluted here) but it is my fear of: They won’t like me if I say no, I will let them down, If I don’t say yes to this job then there won’t be anymore… And on and on. Saying yes to your life means saying yes to what makes you come alive. Saying yes to the things you want to do even if you are terrified, especially if you are terrified. Saying yes to who you really are, which is buried under the layer of No’s and years of standing still.
I can travel and write and teach and be exactly who I want to be. I am saying yes to the things I am afraid of, I am saying yes to cleaning out my car and getting organized so that when I get pulled over by a cop, as I did this morning, I can actually find my registration card instead of getting a ticket for not having it. I am saying yes to my life, with all it’s parts and needs for oil changes and tune-ups. I am saying yes to reading more, to move Movable Feasts, to more trips to Paris, Yes to leading more retreats around the world for the rest of my life.Yes to writing my best-selling book. Yes to inspiring millions. Because that is what I want to do.
(Note:This photo is of the inspiring Bryant Mcgill and his adorable daughters – by Jenni Young of Jenni Creatives)
Start to say yes more to your life.
That’s not to say that bad things won’t happen, that my friend Emily Rapp’s baby boy isn’t dying, that some things just suck and are really really unfair. But in the meantime, with compassion in our hearts for all of those who are rammed up against a big fat No, let’s keep saying Yes.
Note: This is a guest blog by the fab, motivating, yoga-teacher/guru/writer Jennifer Pastiloff.
Jennifer Pastiloff, Beauty Hunter, is a writer and yoga teacher living with her husband in Los Angeles when he’s not on an airplane. She travels the world with her unique workshop: The Manifestation Workshop: On Being Human-a hybrid of yoga, writing, sharing out loud, and occasionally a dance party. It's an experience that has been described as distinctly NOT "woo-woo," unpredictable, heart-mending and sometimes messy- just like life. You do not have to be a good yogi, or writer. Just a human being with a body. Jen has been featured on Good Morning America, New York Magazine, CBS News and more for her unique style of teaching. She’s developed a massive and loyal following from her personal essays. She studied poetry and writing at NYU and Bucknell University and is currently finishing her first book, "Beauty Hunting."
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