Do you get overly anxious about the unfamiliar?
Do you tend to make life more difficult than it need be?
Here’s a Quick Quiz to test how much you unnecessarily make mountains out of molehills.
In the above examples, no loved-one was in mortal danger. Basic human needs were not taken way. No one was incarcerated. No war zone appeared. Life got the hiccups – but not a flat line.Life can be tricky. Objects often appear larger than they really are. Sometimes things are difficult to gauge. I get it.
But let’s say you’re walking along, and you encounter a molehill. Would you throw on your hiking gear to move past it? Would you feel so overwhelmed that you would turn around and go home?
This doesn’t mean that you keep walking around like they don’t exist. After all, you don’t walk on bumpy ground the same way you would on a flat surface. You want to make sure you don’t kick through those molehills. Basically, you just need to become aware of the molehills, then exert just the right effort to get past them. (But not extreme effort!) Simply step over or walk around the molehill. Kaput.
On the same token, don’t make molehills out of anthills, either.
How I spell my name (Yazminh) has thrown off so many people. They tackle it with fancy high knees or cartwheels. They see the “h,” and flip out – adding sounds of letters that aren’t even there: “Yazmeen,” “Jazmin,” “Jazmeen,” etc. I even get mail addressed to “Yazmitch,” “Yasminth,” and the like.
Others approaching this anthill of my name see it as the anthill it is, and directly ask: “How do you pronounce your name?”
It’s actually pretty easy. My name is spelled phonetically – with the exception of the silent “h” at the end. Even if you pronounced the “h,” it’d all work out. Nothing wrong with a sigh after a job well done! (Note: If you took the chance to read my name as it’s written, bravo for seeing it as it is, but not worse than it is!)
List the humps you’re stressing over right now on a piece of paper. Go through and circle the ones that are truly mountains. Recognize that the rest are only molehills and address them accordingly.
If you need a bit more help figuring out how big your problem is – ask yourself these 2 questions…
“Yes” = You’re justified to be concerned; continue to 2.
“No” = MOLEHILL – continue to 2.
“Yes” = Take care of your biz! Keep in mind the size of your hump.
“No” = MOLEHILL
Remember: Choose your bumps wisely! Size does matter!
Note: This is a guest essay by Yazminh
About The Author: Yazminh AB is a thriving survivor of having grown up a tomboy with a sailor’s mouth in an old-school Catholic Asian household. She enjoys movies that make her jump, foods that make her sing, and songs that transport her. If cloned, she would become an engineer, neuroscientist, epic movie composer and ninja master. For now, she is a happy-go-lucky writer, life coach, and mom of a gaggle of kids, including her Australian cattle beagle.
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