Ditto with our memories.
When our mind is searching for an “opinion” on how our life is going (awesome vs. awful) we have “favorite first listings” of thoughts and memories which we tend to use to decide how we should think about ourselves and our life.
As a result, if we choose to file unhappy thoughts and unhappy memories as our first “listings” for what to think about – then we wind up feeling unhappy about ourselves and our lives.
Meanwhile, we have have infinite thoughts and memories we could have chosen to think about – but these go unnoticed, because just like with a Google search, we mainly only consider the first few listings that pop up – and ignore the rest.
Although specific thoughts and memories might pop up first in your mind, this does not mean these particular “listings” accurately represent the full story of your life!
If you wanted, you could re-file your thoughts and memories so that happier listings pop up first – and thereby you could improve your mood and perspective.
Take some time today to think about which happy thoughts and positive memories you want to start prioritizing when it comes to love, success, money, friendship, luckiness, (etc…)
Force yourself to do a deep “google search” of your thoughts and memories – so you can come up with lots of proof that you and your life are pretty darn amazing.
Write down these happy thoughts and memories in a journal or on a sheet of paper and label them POSITIVE EVIDENCE LISTINGS ABOUT MYSELF AND MY LIFE. Read this “positive evidence” often – so it gets deeply embedded into your mind.
Consciously decide to give these new-and-improved “positive listings” a “higher ranking” in your mind, so that next time you ask yourself questions like: “how do I feel my life is going?” or “how love-worthy am I?” you give yourself very positive answers!
Soon, with repeated practice, you’ll naturally retrieve these happier thoughts and memories first and foremost and walk around feeling happier on a daily basis.
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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