(Note: This is a guest blog from Renate Vullings)
Have you ever noticed people who often look at the dark side of the moon tend to think of themselves as being “realistic”?
They may say:
“Life is hard and you always have to keep in my mind what can go wrong.”
But I can’t help but wonder:
Aren’t they máking life difficult by looking at it from this perspective?
If you always have an eye on what can go wrong and what’s difficult, is there still time left to pay attention to what is right, to see the possibilities?
Is saying you’re “realistic” simply a way to rationalize negativity?
Are people who try to be “realistic” about things – simply standing in their own way of happiness?
How realistic is it to always have your attention on the pitfalls?
Do you still have your eyes open for the stepping stones, spring-boards, red carpets, the extending helping hands life also has to offer?
Are you only seeing half the picture?
Because how much can you really taste life if you’re busy trying to look for the truth of things – and avoiding seeking the positive of things?
Plus – can you truly see what life has to offer if you are simultaneously wanting to protect yourself from life?
So, let’s be realistic here. I’m not appealing to you to believe in fairytales, or escape into a dreamworld.
On the contrary.
But I am encouraging you to shift your attention more frequently to what can turn out right, what is already right, and simply be willing to glimpse and embrace the possible obstacles – but without limiting your life force, your energy, your vision.
Head in the clouds and both feet on the ground, this is how we can very realistically make our dreams come true.
Hi I’m Karen Salmansohn, founder of NotSalmon. My mission is to offer you easy-to-understand insights and tools to empower you to bloom into your happiest, highest potential self. I use playful analogies, feisty humor, and stylish graphics to distill big ideas – going as far back as ancient wisdom from Aristotle, Buddhism and Darwin to the latest research studies from Cognitive Therapy, Neuro Linquistic Programming, Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Quantum Physics, Nutritional Studies – and then some.
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