Break ups are tough - even JOB BREAK UPS!

And it’s just as hard for the breaker-upper boss as it is for the break-uppee employee.

With this in mind, Nancy Mindes, a NYC career coach (who calls herself a “Chief Audaciousness Officer”) offers up some bold practices for bosses to keep in mind to better prevent difficult job break ups from happening.

1. Create a detailed job description – or you’ll wind up with someone who lacks the key strengths you need.

2. Never hire someone quickly from a place of panic - just to get a body in the office. Remember: once you bring in the wrong person, it's very difficult to get them out.

3. Take the time to call past employers and google the potential employee. You won't regret it.

4. Delegate with very detailed direction – or you’ll wind up with missed deadlines and lousy results. Sometimes a “bad employee” is the result of bad instructions.

5. Do not give people too much autonomy – or you’ll wind up not knowing what's going on with your business – and might not find out until there’s a huge problem!

6. Do not under-delegate either – or you’ll take on too much yourself – and won’t be able to focus on what you do best.

7. If after you’ve hired a person, red flags are a-waving (sloppy deliverables, bad communication, attitude, lateness, etc) discuss the issues right away. Be direct. Give them a chance to improve. But remember: Some people’s problems will never go away – and keeping this employee around might cost you time, money, and business relationships!

8. In four words: HIRE SLOWLY. FIRE QUICKLY.

IMPORTANT TIME CHANGE ALERT!!

NOTE: The following TIME CHANGE ALERT applies to YOU.... whether you live in the East Coast or the West Coast...South Africa or Eastern Europe.

This is a TIME CHANGE ALERT that could save your life -- by making sure it's your best life.

This is a TIME CHANGE ALERT to remind you to live in the NOW.

Are you living in the NOW?

Studies have repeatedly shown that NOW is the best time of day to start that healthier diet, improve your love relationship, change your life for the absolute better!

Yes all of us humans, no matter what country we are in, live our happiest lives in he same time zone...THE TIME ZONE OF NOW.

Today be sure to set your awareness to the NOW.

Live NOW. Procrastinate LATER.

Ballsiness = Happiness

This morning I was driving to work with my boyfriend, when to the right of our car, we saw a Drake's Delivery Truck, painted with images of dancing pastries - including the infamous Drake's Coffee Cake.

My boyfriend holds up his coffee-to-go cup, and challenges, "Hey, Karen, why don't you ask the driver for a Drake's coffee cake for our coffees?"

Since I literally wrote the book on "Ballsy" I decide to do just that.

I roll down my window -- get the truck driver's attention -- point to my coffee-to-go cup, and shout, "Hey! Can you spare two coffee cakes for our coffees in here?"

The driver smiles and nods affirmatively.

He reaches over to his right, retrieves 2 coffee cakes, and defenestrates them at us.

(PERSONAL SIDE NOTE: Wow. I'm so happy I finally got to use that word "defenestrate" in my writing. I remember memorizing this word waaaay back when studying for my S.A.T.'s - and reading this recommended vocab word meant "to throw through a window." Immediately I wondered, "When the heck am I ever going to use THAT bizarre word?" Cut to 20 odd years later, on an odd morning...and voila: "Coffee Cake Defenestration occurs!)

With our coffee cakes in one hand, my beau and I wave a large appreciation "thanks" to the driver with our other free hands.

The driver beamed merrily.

Indeed all around us -- everyone in cars within a nearby Coffee Cake Defenestration radius was smiling joyously.

In talking about this a bit with my boyfriend, I realized that ballsy actions tend to create happy emotions.

When you risk and do things outside your norm, you tend to feel more alive -- more liberated - and this leads to more happiness in general.

If I look back at the aftermath of the many ballsy things I've done -- in my career -- and dating life -- I can absolutely remember feeling that adrenaline rush of glee coursing through my veins each time.

But this success formula is NOT simply a one-way thing where...

Ballsiness = Happiness

It also goes the other way around....

Happiness = Ballsiness

For example, this morning I was already in a happy state of mind driving to work with my beau -- which got me feeling feisty, frisky -- ballsy!

And if I look back at my state of mind BEFORE I did the various ballsy actions in my life, I also remember being in a happy/feisty/frisky mood.

The life lesson here?

The happier you are -- the ballsier you will be.

Indeed...in my career coaching I'm always recommending people try to do what they can to be overall happy people FIRST AND FOREMOST, if they want to score extreme success.

I say: Money doesn't bring you happiness. But happiness brings you money.

The happier you are, the more energy you have to jump over obstacles -- and the more ballsiness you have to take those leaps.

With this in mind, here's an important CAREER TIP FROM MY BOOK BALLSY:

"Consciously focus on the FUN - and NOT the fear!" Today...if you ARE feeling afraid to make a risky move, rile yourself into a fun frame of mind first. Force yourself to focus on the FUN of the action -- and NOT the fear of the action -- and do that ballsy thing you know you want to do! You'll literally be HAPPY you did!

WARNING: Obstacles to joy appear larger than they truly are during crisis!

ANNOUNCING A NEW SEMINAR!

THE BOUNCE BACK SEMINAR!

Monday, June 18th at 7pm at THE SOHO HOUSE in NYC!

A bad breakup. A serious illness. The loss of a job. The death of a parent. Life has a habit of throwing people curveballs.

To which I say: "When life throws you curveballs, hit them out of the park!"

My newest Bounce Back Seminar is jampacked with an inspiring collection of top resilience tips from happiness research, psychological studies, Greek philosophy, nutrition and exercise experts, and more!

So if you're presently trying to overcome a challenge - absolutely come to my inspiring Bounce Back Seminar -- and learn all the latest research tips on how to bounce back happier, stronger, better than ever before!

WHEN: June 18th at 7pm

WHERE: The Soho House, 9th Ave. between 13th and 14th St.

FEE: $35.00 by paypal at my site $45.00 at the door

BONUS: 1 FREE WEEK AT YOGAWORKS, FIZZY LIZZIE BEVERAGE, CHOCOLATE FRETZELS (yum, yum!), SEPHORA FREEBIES,2 BELLES LINGERIE, and PERVARTISTRY GAMES!

PLUS A RAFFLE: Win all kinds of goodies like a FREE TRAINING SESSION with my amazing personal trainer, Josh Margolis, who owns/runs NYC'S acclaimed MIND OVER MATTER (Pssst...if you're looking for a trainer...Joshua Margolis is fab! He's got a Bachelors Degree in Sports Psychology. He holds certifications from A.C.E., A.I.F.E., and N.A.S.M, and is also prenatal and postpartum fitness certified. Joshua has been working in the health and fitness arena for over 5 years designing personalized fitness programs which incorporate motivational techniques to enhance performance. His fitness philosophy: "Your self image and habits go hand in hand; change one and you will automatically change the other.")

QUICKIE GOOD NEWS: One of my research studies reports that bad events happily come with a bad memory. Post-bad-times not only do most people rebound back to their average happiness level - but often bounce back to even higher-than-usual good moods! Psychologists believe this bounce back up-up-upper affect is due to people re- appreciating all the good they have in their life.

ASAP Bounce Back Assignment: Write a Gratitude List. Who do you love? What do you love? Pay more attention to these people and things, and you'll be on your way to jumpstarting happiness ASAP.

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BE HAPPY DAMMIT TIP: BUSINESS FRIENDSHIP PERKS YOU UP!

Today on my sirius show -- BE HAPPY DAMMIT -- I was talking with one of my regulars, Jonathan Fields, a serial entrepreneur, about the importance of friendship not only when it comes to life happiness -- but job happiness!

For example...

People with a best-friend at work are 7 times more likely to be engaged in their work!

Close friendships at work boost employee satisfaction by nearly 50%!

People with at least 3 close friends at work were 46% more likely to be extremely satisfied with their job -- and 88% more likely to be satisfied with their lives!

Being around a boss was generally considered the least-pleasant part of the work-day. But, employees who were good friends with their bosses were more than TWICE as likely to be happy with their work!

All of this is especially interesting to me now that I've been hiring people to help me out with my radio show. I must confess one of my top job hiring assessments was to ask myself "Would I want to have lunch with this person outside of them working with me?" I only wanted to hire people I'd enjoy spending time with -- and so far so good! I love my new Be Happy Dammit Team: Carolynn Kutz, Allison Maggy, Alexis Robertson, Laura Cantor, and Sharra! So far they've definitely been making my life and job far more than 7 times as engaging!