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Sunday, April 15, 2007

SOME SOUL MATE SNAGGING TIPS...


I recently got out of a relationship with someone who I never felt fully connected with.

After work at dinner each night I'd always ask him about his day, but to no avail. He'd clam up, never sharing fully who he was underneath his expensive suits. And whenever I tried to get him to talk about his emotions, he'd stonewall, confessing his ex used to have the same problem with his inability to want to share his feelings.

In thinking about this now I realized he didn't have AN OPEN SOUL, which should be a top priority for anyone seeking a SOUL MATE.

YES...first and foremost -- far ahead of seeking someone who is sexy, smart, funny, successful -- you must seek AN OPEN SOUL.

Likewise, if you want to snag a SOUL MATE it is essential you be AN OPEN SOUL.

Sure when you live with AN OPEN SOUL you run more risks for rejection, abandonment, and overall vulnerability/pain.

BUT...

It is only when you risk living with AN OPEN SOUL that you stand any chance at all of feeling connected to another.

Another perk to OPEN SOUL-DOM: self-growth!

When you drop your guards and your fancy-shmancy socialized self exterior, you are up for being challenged -- and thereby up for growing into your highest potential -- which in my belief system is the holy grail for happiness -- gaining insights which help you grow into your highest potential.

Chances are if you are already AN OPEN SOUL it's because you are presently someone who values becoming your highest self, and are thereby up for the risk and challenge of true intimacy. If so, yay for you!

OPEN SOUL people are those who live a life viewing relationships as not only being there for THE PRACTICAL PURPOSE of companionship -- but for THE HIGHER PURPOSE of growth.

OPEN SOUL people put learning how to be better at receiving and giving love as a top life priority... and thereby spend a lot of their time in SOUL SHARING mode... being communicative, appreciative, openly caring, openly loving - because they know the gains of true intimacy far outweigh the pains.

Indeed, if you want to better increase your odds of finding your SOUL MATE, increase your openness of sharing your soul with your partner.

Yo! It's called a SOUL MATE for a reason! Being a SOUL MATE with someone is about connecting soul to soul with them. And if your soul is not coming out to play, you will never feel connected - and thereby never feel like youve found your SOUL MATE. End of story (and a story without that yearned for happily ever after ending)!

WITH THIS IN MIND, HERE ARE SOME SOUL OPENING TIPS TO KEEP IN MIND AS YOU GO ABOUT YOUR WEEK:

1. STOP expecting your partner to be a mind reader. Hate to break it to you -- BUT -- even mind readers are NOT really mind readers! They're clever show biz folks. If a mind reader is not truly a mind reader, neither is your partner! Speak up! If something is on your mind... share it! One of my favorite quotes is from Emile Zola: I came into this world to live out loud. ...So live out loud, dammit!

2. STOP focusing on your fears of intimacy (aka: rejection and abandonment) and re-focus on the amazing perks of intimacy (aka true connection and higher self growth potential!)

3. Commit to staying committed. When the relationship gets bumpy -- see things through the lens of "growth opportunity" -- and learn how to share how you feel warmly with the potential of you being wrong and your partner being right! Learn how to better give and receive love when it's hardest to give and receive. Remember: All relationship challenges are opportunistic vehicles to help you learn how to better receive and give love...the holiest grails to aim yourself at in life

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