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Living in the past is like driving forward while staring in the rear view mirror.     Believing is seeing.     Be an over-fright success story.     One's actions convince louder than one's words.     Make progress. Make new mistakes.     All work and no play makes Jill want to reach for the Prozac.     The purpose of your life is to find the purpose of your life. It doesn't matter how fast you get there if you're heading in the wrong direction.     If at first you don't succeed, you're doing something stupid.     You're nobody until somebody hates you.     Behind every successful woman is someone who pissed her off.     To get where you need to go you must first see who you really are.     Be a warrior, not a worrier.     Be a winner, not a whiner.     If the coyote had stopped to catch his breath, he might have caught the roadrunner.     A pack of puppies led by a pitbull will always be feared more than a pack of pitbulls led by a puppy.     Brainpower is as important as horsepower. Read, read, read!     You should always pick a job for its passion value not cash-in value.     Don't let a blame preoccupation ruin your occupation.     It's always better to go for longterm greed over short term greed.     A shortcut is often the longest distance between two points.     Time is money...and time wasters are money wasters.     Don't wait to make heaps and heaps of cash to have heaps and heaps of fun.     Every member of the Fortune 500 Club could also be a member of the Misfortune 500 Club.     Money doesn't bring you true happiness...but happiness can bring you true money. If you love what you do, the money will come.     Whatever business you're in you're in the people business.     Fail Faster. Succeed faster.     Behind every successful woman is someone who pissed her off.     Follow the fuscia brick road.   Failure is in many ways like "fullure" - it is always full of lessons to be learned.     Believe in a laughter life.     Don't let your convictions become your restrictions.     Invest in "Fresh Air Fun." Take a walk outside once a day.     If you want your body to be smoking, you've got to stop smoking.     Sometimes, all you gotta do is ask. Duh.     Taking no action is an action. Duh.     Happiness is not about what happens to you -- but about how you choose to respond to what happens.     Comedy = tragedy + 3 months and/or 3 margaritas!     Practice that tongue twister "NO" today.     Take the fat out of your fate. Slim down your schedule to what matters.     It's not just what you know...but what you do with what you know.     The grass is greener on the other side - until you get there and see it's astroturf.     When you grow - you often outgrow.     The only constant is change.     You are a human being, not a human was or a human will be.     Self honesty is the only path to happiness.     Sometimes we're "mad at" someone whom we should merely be "sad at."     Be so proactive you're preactive.     Fast doesn't always last.     Love is a boomerang. What have you and give away is what you get back.     Fear of commitment: it could happen to you...or someone you can't love.     Saying difficult things now is better than fixing even more difficult problems later.     It is better to have loved and lost - than to live with a psycho for the rest of your life.     It is better to have loved and lost - and had some really amazing hot sex - than never to have lived and loved at all.     A man is not a project. A man is a man. And a project is a project.     It's better to have a short bad relationship than a long bad relationship.     It's worth it to hold out for a soul mate and not settle for a cellmate.     Assess breeds success.     Turn all bad experiences into good inperiences - take them in fully, and change in a positive way.    
 

Thursday, March 17, 2005

2 great tragedies in life:not getting a BMW and getting a BMW


A team of researchers are right now out there studying how to better predict what will make you happy -- really, truly happy. (Smart guys like : a top professor in Harvard's department of psychology. Daniel Gilbert + top psychologist Tim Wilson of the University of Virginia!) Well, it seems these smart guys have found that there's a gap between what you predict will make you happy and what ultimately does -- and they call this gap the ''impact bias.'' The phrase characterizes how you experience the dimming excitement over not just a BMW but any object, person, puppy, event, yummy plate of turkey with stuffing and cranberry sauce -- anything that you guess will definitely make you happy -- and then, well, it does not.You know how the Stones sang, 'You can't always get what you want' ''...well, Gilbert and Wilson say. ''You can't always accurately know what you want.''

HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?

If so, do you think it’s because:

1. You didn’t know what you really wanted?
2. When you finally snagged the car/person/puppy/event/turkey dinner then you suddenly no longer appreciated the car/person/puppy/event/turkey dinner?

YOU KNOW WHAT I WANT RIGHT NOW? I want for you to write to me at my forum on this site and tell me your thoughts on this subject! Hmm....even though a full sentence has passed, I still want that. Yup....I still want that. Yessirree, still very much wanting that...

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Wednesday, March 16, 2005

HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH FIERY TEMPERS WITHOUT EXTINGUISHING FLAMES OF LOVE?


It seems men and women equally agree to disagree on how to disagree. Do you believe:

1. Surly to bed, surly to rise. Couples should talk about problems…at the speed of life…as they happen…and thereby cash in on the rewards of pre-bedtime-make-up-sex!

2. The problem with talking about problems RIGHT AWAY is that it can often lead to more problems RIGHT AWAY. For example…the tendency to begin sentences with: “Yo dinkhead!” -- which then, sadlly, drastically reduces the likelihood of make-up sex!

FORGIVE AND FORGET? TALK AND FORGIVE?

I SAY....always kill that little relationship monster when it’s small. Don’t wait for a niggling problem to grow large and luminous. Speak up – and smoosh that tiny monster.

Oh -- and that’s not just my opinion, but that of John Gottman, a reknowned relationship researcher and marriage psychologist. Gottman found in his research that all unhappy relationships shared one thing in a common – at least one partner who thought it was better to adapt and adopt to a negative situation as it happens, instead of talking about their feelings right away and working on resolutions and what he calls “repair.” You must always keep in mind a little ditty the ancient Ephesians once said. “Don’t let the sun set on your wrath,” Or as I like to say “Don’t go to bed angry – because make up sex is way too much fun

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