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Living in the past is like driving forward while staring in the rear view mirror.     Believing is seeing.     Be an over-fright success story.     One's actions convince louder than one's words.     Make progress. Make new mistakes.     All work and no play makes Jill want to reach for the Prozac.     The purpose of your life is to find the purpose of your life. It doesn't matter how fast you get there if you're heading in the wrong direction.     If at first you don't succeed, you're doing something stupid.     You're nobody until somebody hates you.     Behind every successful woman is someone who pissed her off.     To get where you need to go you must first see who you really are.     Be a warrior, not a worrier.     Be a winner, not a whiner.     If the coyote had stopped to catch his breath, he might have caught the roadrunner.     A pack of puppies led by a pitbull will always be feared more than a pack of pitbulls led by a puppy.     Brainpower is as important as horsepower. Read, read, read!     You should always pick a job for its passion value not cash-in value.     Don't let a blame preoccupation ruin your occupation.     It's always better to go for longterm greed over short term greed.     A shortcut is often the longest distance between two points.     Time is money...and time wasters are money wasters.     Don't wait to make heaps and heaps of cash to have heaps and heaps of fun.     Every member of the Fortune 500 Club could also be a member of the Misfortune 500 Club.     Money doesn't bring you true happiness...but happiness can bring you true money. If you love what you do, the money will come.     Whatever business you're in you're in the people business.     Fail Faster. Succeed faster.     Behind every successful woman is someone who pissed her off.     Follow the fuscia brick road.   Failure is in many ways like "fullure" - it is always full of lessons to be learned.     Believe in a laughter life.     Don't let your convictions become your restrictions.     Invest in "Fresh Air Fun." Take a walk outside once a day.     If you want your body to be smoking, you've got to stop smoking.     Sometimes, all you gotta do is ask. Duh.     Taking no action is an action. Duh.     Happiness is not about what happens to you -- but about how you choose to respond to what happens.     Comedy = tragedy + 3 months and/or 3 margaritas!     Practice that tongue twister "NO" today.     Take the fat out of your fate. Slim down your schedule to what matters.     It's not just what you know...but what you do with what you know.     The grass is greener on the other side - until you get there and see it's astroturf.     When you grow - you often outgrow.     The only constant is change.     You are a human being, not a human was or a human will be.     Self honesty is the only path to happiness.     Sometimes we're "mad at" someone whom we should merely be "sad at."     Be so proactive you're preactive.     Fast doesn't always last.     Love is a boomerang. What have you and give away is what you get back.     Fear of commitment: it could happen to you...or someone you can't love.     Saying difficult things now is better than fixing even more difficult problems later.     It is better to have loved and lost - than to live with a psycho for the rest of your life.     It is better to have loved and lost - and had some really amazing hot sex - than never to have lived and loved at all.     A man is not a project. A man is a man. And a project is a project.     It's better to have a short bad relationship than a long bad relationship.     It's worth it to hold out for a soul mate and not settle for a cellmate.     Assess breeds success.     Turn all bad experiences into good inperiences - take them in fully, and change in a positive way.    
 

Friday, October 26, 2007

The Contagion Theory On Happiness


Have you ever noticed how being around nutsy/negative people can make you feel nutsy/negative?

Psychologists call this “emotional contagion” – and there’s even evolutionary reasons for why someone else’s curmudgeonly ways can infect you.

“The original form is the contagion of fear and alarm,” said Frans de Waal, a psychologist and primate expert at Atlanta’s Emory University. “You’re in a flock of birds. One bird suddenly takes off. You have no time to wait and see what’s going on. You take off, too. Otherwise, you’re lunch.”

Translation: Getting caught up in another’s negativity is a hard-wired survival mechanism.

“I have often noticed how primate groups in their entirety enter a similar mood,” de Waal said. “All of a sudden, all of them are playful, hopping around. Or all of them are grumpy. Or all of them are sleepy and settle down. In such cases, the mood contagion serves the function of synchronizing activities. The individual who doesn’t stay in tune with what everyone is doing will lose out, like the traveler who didn’t go the restroom when the bus stopped.”

Translation: Contagion theory of happiness also explains the powerful energy of “mob mentality” and why there’s a tendency for groups of people in a movie theater or concert to share a similar feeling for the move or concert.

Plus psychologists believe that “the contagion theory of happiness” is yet another form of our hard-wired mimicry we humans do – our instinctive human tendency to unconsciously imitate other people’s facial expressions, vocalizations, postures, and body movements.

For example, if someone scratches their nose, you might suddenly feel your nostrils twitch. Or if someone yawns and stretches and gets sleepy, you might yawn and feel more tired too.

Indeed, mimicry is such a strong foundation of our human emotional development that even at a mere 1-hour old, a newborn infant will be hard-wired to mimic a person's facial gestures.

Hence why you can smile at 1-hour old baby, and this 1-hour old baby will smile back!

Translation: Our built-in human system for mimicry, explains why we humans can transfer our good and bad moods to each other.

Recently The Journal of Applied Psychology offered up a study which showed the downer effects of a downer leader on a group. They took 189 volunteer undergraduates, divided them into 63 groups of 3, and told them they were taking part in a team-building exercise to put up a tent. Then a “leader” was chosen for each team, and shown either of video clip of a “Saturday Night Live” skits or a vignette on torture — to create either a positive/up beat mood or a negative/downer mood.

The result: If a leader was up, the team members’ moods rose. But if the leader was down, everyone became down.

Numerous other studies have also shown how when one person in a romantic coupling gets depressed, the other also becomes more depressed.

Psychologists believe this transfer of emotions is yet another form of empathy.

In London’s University College, psychologist Tonia Singer and colleagues used brain scans to explore empathy in 19 romantic couples. She hooked both individuals to brain scans. One partner in the couple was given a slight electric shock while the other partner watched. Each of their scans showed identical brain reactions. Although only one partner was shocked, both of the partner’s pain center lighted up - as if both had been jolted.

On a more happy note… Howard Friedman, a psychologist at University of California at Irvine thinks “emotional contagion” this is also why some people can move and inspire others to positive action – like a good coach or a powerful preacher – or a joyous/exuberant partner in a romantic coupling.

Friedman believes it’s because the happy person’s happy facial expression, happy voice, happy gestures and happy body movements all together conspire to transmit happy emotions to all those around the happy person!

YOUR ASSIGMENT: Today decide to be a HAPPINESS TRANSMITTER! Choose to be a happier person – and spread happiness around you. And choose to surround yourself more with happy people. With this in mind, think of a happy person you know, and invite them to do something fun with you. And...with this in mind, join my facebook group called “I BET I CAN FIND 1,000,000 HAPPY PEOPLE!”

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