Sign Up for the Get Happy Dammit Newsletter
Persistence is a boring but necessary virtue. You might not think anything is changing in your career life or love life, but if you are persistent you will eventually see change. Remember! True failure only happens when you abandon your quest. Keep on questing!

Any questions, comments, seminar/coaching inquiries, compliments, recipe suggestions?
Click Here!
For media requests,
please contact notsalmonstaff AT notsalmon DOT com.

Living in the past is like driving forward while staring in the rear view mirror.     Believing is seeing.     Be an over-fright success story.     One's actions convince louder than one's words.     Make progress. Make new mistakes.     All work and no play makes Jill want to reach for the Prozac.     The purpose of your life is to find the purpose of your life. It doesn't matter how fast you get there if you're heading in the wrong direction.     If at first you don't succeed, you're doing something stupid.     You're nobody until somebody hates you.     Behind every successful woman is someone who pissed her off.     To get where you need to go you must first see who you really are.     Be a warrior, not a worrier.     Be a winner, not a whiner.     If the coyote had stopped to catch his breath, he might have caught the roadrunner.     A pack of puppies led by a pitbull will always be feared more than a pack of pitbulls led by a puppy.     Brainpower is as important as horsepower. Read, read, read!     You should always pick a job for its passion value not cash-in value.     Don't let a blame preoccupation ruin your occupation.     It's always better to go for longterm greed over short term greed.     A shortcut is often the longest distance between two points.     Time is money...and time wasters are money wasters.     Don't wait to make heaps and heaps of cash to have heaps and heaps of fun.     Every member of the Fortune 500 Club could also be a member of the Misfortune 500 Club.     Money doesn't bring you true happiness...but happiness can bring you true money. If you love what you do, the money will come.     Whatever business you're in you're in the people business.     Fail Faster. Succeed faster.     Behind every successful woman is someone who pissed her off.     Follow the fuscia brick road.   Failure is in many ways like "fullure" - it is always full of lessons to be learned.     Believe in a laughter life.     Don't let your convictions become your restrictions.     Invest in "Fresh Air Fun." Take a walk outside once a day.     If you want your body to be smoking, you've got to stop smoking.     Sometimes, all you gotta do is ask. Duh.     Taking no action is an action. Duh.     Happiness is not about what happens to you -- but about how you choose to respond to what happens.     Comedy = tragedy + 3 months and/or 3 margaritas!     Practice that tongue twister "NO" today.     Take the fat out of your fate. Slim down your schedule to what matters.     It's not just what you know...but what you do with what you know.     The grass is greener on the other side - until you get there and see it's astroturf.     When you grow - you often outgrow.     The only constant is change.     You are a human being, not a human was or a human will be.     Self honesty is the only path to happiness.     Sometimes we're "mad at" someone whom we should merely be "sad at."     Be so proactive you're preactive.     Fast doesn't always last.     Love is a boomerang. What have you and give away is what you get back.     Fear of commitment: it could happen to you...or someone you can't love.     Saying difficult things now is better than fixing even more difficult problems later.     It is better to have loved and lost - than to live with a psycho for the rest of your life.     It is better to have loved and lost - and had some really amazing hot sex - than never to have lived and loved at all.     A man is not a project. A man is a man. And a project is a project.     It's better to have a short bad relationship than a long bad relationship.     It's worth it to hold out for a soul mate and not settle for a cellmate.     Assess breeds success.     Turn all bad experiences into good inperiences - take them in fully, and change in a positive way.    
 

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Appreciate Your Backyard Diamond People!


There's a huge trend these days for networking up a storm. And with this cultural encouragement to amass more people in your life -- you can a-miss the whole point of amassing.

In other words, the original goal of networking is: "Meet people who will make your life a happier and more fulfilling place."

However…if you’re always spending time amassing new people and creating a quantity of non-quality relationships, it can ironically mean you're not taking the necessary time to enjoy the happiness and fulfillment readily found with the treasured people you already know and love.

Think about it.

Do you have have a network of truly amazing people whom you never get to see – because you’re putting too much emphasis on networking to meet a quantity of people?

Are you caught up in signing up for the slew of popular social networking sites -- which are all about "collecting a quantity of people"?

If so you might be suspect for being too caught up in this mass trend for amassing people!

And if so, you're a sufferer of what Nobel Prize winner Daniel Kahneman calls "The Happiness Hedonic Treadmill" – which is fancy shmancy words for how we humans have a tendency to always want more, more, MORE! And as soon as we humans snag a precious something, we’re quickly reaching for another prized out-of-reach something – and no longer appreciative of the just-snagged something, laying in a discarded heap at our feet.

This Happiness Hedonic Treadmill is why lottery winners often return to their former levels of happiness within a year of snagging their gazillions.

And it’s why you might not be feeling so happy right now in your life.

Perhaps you’re being too focused on all those distant dangling carrots on the horizon, rather than appreciating the carrots you’ve harvested -- and in particular appreciating all those Acres of Diamonds People you've already amassed in your own backyard.

Keep in mind: Consistently happiness researchers report that being surrounded by people you sincerely care about is the top essential determinant for joy! Hence it's important to make sure you're not spending more time networking with strangers and creating superficial relationships, than you are enjoying your Backyard Diamonds People! Ignore your treasured relationships for too long and they will eventually turn to cold coal!

YOUR ASSIGNMENT:

Today decide to shed more of a light of appreciation on your treasured Backyard People Diamonds. Look through your contact book. Remember what you love about each individual, then write them or call them to share your admiration directly. Do it now. Seize the day, dammit.

And you know what? Don’t just do it today. Also do it tomorrow.

It’s not enough just to seize the-every-other-day. Or to seize-the-every-third-day. Seize your every single solitary day – and make sure you're not spending your days solitarily in a crowded room networking and amassing superficial relationships!

Labels: , , , ,

If you're new to my blog, you may want to consider subscribing to my RSS feed: Subscribe to this blog's feed.

If you liked this article, please bookmark it on del.icio.us or vote for it on Digg. Digg. I’d appreciate it. :)

1 Comments:

Blogger karen said...

It might be useful for us to really give some thought to whether such a mentality of "accumulation" occurs inside of us.

Having such a mentality pushes us away from living in the now and cherishing the people that we already have a relationship with. Moreover, getting more and more just means that we'll get to them and only in the future (since we can't be nourishing the relationship in the now).

Simply be more aware and you will be able to manage this way of thinking.

To Your Happiness & Success!
http://www.SuccessArticle.info

9:04 AM  

Post a Comment

<< Home