I think of "marital affairs" as "unfairs"! Not everyone does. Do YOU?

Have you ever stolen a kiss from another person's spouse?

Or have kisses stolen from you?

What about experiencing an entire sexual/emotional marital break and entry?

On Monday I had an interesting panel of award-winning female authors on my Sirius radio show, BE HAPPY DAMMIT (on Lime 114), brought to me by my "Book Booker," Ron Hogan.

Some were "the other woman."

Some were "the other woman-ee."

All were featured authors in VICTORIA ZACKHEIM's new anthology:"The Other Woman: Twenty-one Wives, Lovers, and Others Talk Openly About Sex, Deception, Love, and Betrayal."

The first segment featured KATHLEEN ARCHAMBEAU and CAROLINE LEAVITT, the wives of the cheating partners, who openly, bravely expressed their process of healing and dealing.

The second segment featured an even more brave lot -- SUSAN MONTEZ and LYNN FREED -- who candidly spoke about being the mistress.

Frankly it was surprising how frankly they spoke - and fascinating.

I learned one interesting "relationship tidbit" -- ironically from one of the mistresses, Lynn Freed.

Lynn was talking about a chat she once had with her girlfriends -- about what she most looked for in a man.

No, it wasn't that they come with a wife!

Lynn said she adored a man who's repeated mantra was: "Leave it to me!"

I agree.

Even though I am strong, productive, self-reliant -- hell, I totally love a man who makes me feel safe and taken care of.

"Leave it to me!" -- those are indeed aphrodisiacal words!

I'm happy to say my man says those words to me often - which is why I won't be leaving him any time soon!

So if you're a man reading this blog, be aware: Women love to hear those words! Say them often!

If you're a woman reading this blog, be aware: Those words are good to look for in a partner!

I brought this all up with my beau, and we had an interesting conversation about the appeal of this "Leave It To Me Character Value." You might want to try this with your partner, too!

On my show I promised listeners I'd offer up a link to an old piece I wrote a year ago about "HOW TO SPOT A TWO-TIMER!" If you're feeling romance angst, check it out!

Also...a few months ago I had the fascinating SUSAN SHAPIRO BARASH on my radio show (the best selling author of "A Passion for More: wives reveal the affairs that make or break their marriage") and she shared some scary marital affair statistics.

Did you know:

*Over 60% of all women will engage in an extra marital affair at some point in their marriage

*70% say that their lover is the opposite of their husband

*90% of the women have no guilt, rather they feel entitled to the affair

All I can say about the above: Yikes!

I'm a big believer that ALL affairs are unfairs!

What about YOU?