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Monday, October 17, 2005

ARE YOU FEAR-DIRECTED OR PLEASURE-DIRECTED?!


Psychologists say there are two ways you can live your life: (1) making decisions based on fear (2) making decisions based on on pleasure.

Pleasure-directed people live their lives by choosing to move towards what interests them, enthuses them, inspires them...and not letting fear and uncertainty distract them.

It should therefore be no biggie surprise to learn that pleasure-directed people are analyzed to be (1) MORE happy, (2) MORE balanced, (3) MORE centered, (4) LESS controlling, (5) LESS vindictive, (6) LESS jealous...compared to their fear-directed opposite counter-parts.

After all, pleasure-directed people are more in touch with the needs and desires of their authentic self and less focused on others...so they're more likely to choose people, jobs, events, things that bring them true contentment, rather than make fear-directed decisions which not only lead to avoiding pain, but avoiding the most fulfulling outcome!

Today, take a moment to look at how you make decisions -- small, medium and large. Do you look at what you seek to gain -- or what you want to avoid losing? Do you look at what will bring you the most happiness, love, passion -- or what will ensure you the least amount of pain, change, uncertainty?

Are you in your present job, relationship, home, lifestyle because you are PLEASURE-DIRECTED or FEAR-DIRECTED?

Today decide to do what you can to start making more PLEASURE-DIRECTED life decisions!

NOTE:THE ABOVE PSYCHOLOGICAL TIDBIT COMES FROM MY BOOK "THE 7 LIVELY SINS: HOW TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE DAMMIT"...for more info see my books' growth section...or write me at info@notsalmon.com! xoKaren

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2 Comments:

Anonymous GEM said...

I can't believe it. Karen Salmansohn. Who knew that you'd have your own site up with a blog and everything?! I just wanted to let you know that I am a major fan of your work. You don't even know how many copies of "How To Be Happy, Dammit" is circulating around the world because of me. Not only does it deliver an insightful, meaningful message but it does so with humor and wit. I have your other books as well. However, I didn't know that you put out a novel in 1993. I'll definitely be grabbing a copy of it soon. For an aspiring writer like myself, you continually remind me of the possibilities that come with perseverance. I'm just hoping this "writer's block" lifts soon. Anyway, many thanks. I'll most definitely be dropping by your blog to get my daily dose of reality check.

5:17 AM  
Anonymous MJZM said...

wow you must be persevering pretty well if youre up working at 5:17 am!! or is it insomniac rambling... hope its the former...MJZM

7:10 PM  

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